Planning problems

It sounds like he doesn't really want to get married. I'm sorry.

I think you should pause wedding planning, and start *talking*. Try couple's counseling.

A marriage is between two people, and a wedding takes two to happen.

View Quoted Comment We have planned two outher weddings and both of them fell threw for the same reason

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Honestly?

Then get out. He clearly isn't ready for marriage. Either you stay with him and don't get married, or you break up with him.

If this is your third go round, maybe ask yourself why you keep doing this.

I don’t think it’s right that you’re planning it all without any input or help. It’s supposed to be a wedding for both of you. I agree with Rebecca, you both need to take a step back and evaluate the relationship.

Honestly some people are not into planning. My fh isn't much but that's because he would rather just go to the courthouse and he hates attention on him and spending time of money for one day. We compromised but stuff like photography and venue he could careless and that doesn't bother me but at compromise where we can. It's either the wedding or he's not ready to be married and you need to have a good talk with him about where the relationship is and going.

A lot of men aren't into planning. My fiance could care less but he doesn't get angry and start a fight over it. In fact, he was excited to see the invites the day they arrived. It was the first thing he asked about when he walked in the house! Even if your fh doesn't want to look at flowers and cakes, that doesn't mean he needs to be rude to you and start fights. I would be cautious because that doesn't sound like a healthy support system. Personally, I want my wedding to be the happiest day of my life and if my fh was acting out against wedding planning, it would be halted.

It's definitely not uncommon for people (especially men) to be uninterested in wedding planning. My FH has helped out here and there when I ask him to, but I know it's not his thing. Lack of interest in wedding planning is not a red flag if that's all that it really is. That being said, it sounds like there are a lot of underlying issues that makes your fiancé not want to plan a wedding. As PP's said, if this is the third time you've had this issue trying to get married, I would strongly advise seeking couple's counseling at the very least before moving forward with any wedding plans.

I did most of the planning. My husband would help here and there but generally some people aren't very into it. But if you need help then I'd definitely have a convo because it is a lot of work

I disagree with men not wanting ANY say in wedding planning. My FH could careless about the decor & flowers little things, but the more important/big things like the photographer, venue, videographer, DJ he definitely had strong input. If your FH has no interest and planning causes fights and this is your third go round get out! He’s showing you how he truly feels, believe him