Planning My Wedding... Don't know what the hell to do!

Hi congratulations..
so planning your wedding you get to choose where you would like to get married / to have your venue.
Theres plenty of wedding that are in a church then in a venue.. or everything is in one settings in a venue which can be cheaper.. it’s all how you feel and what you like.
Google some venues near you and take a look at them

the venue we are using has the venue bridal suite and a terrace.. we are getting married on a terrace and our reception is going to be inside the venue..,
and keeping the outside open to our guests throughout the night..
you willl find your wedding spot when you feel it
best of luck and congratulations 🎊🎈

First step, take a deep breath! And congratulations on your engagement! There are so many resources for all of your questions not just on here, but on pinterest and a million other wedding websites. Take comfort in the fact that you live in a time where all the information you could ever want at your finger tips.

Start with deciding where you want your wedding and looking into small venues. Try to think of some off the wall places if you want something small. Almost anywhere can be a venue. My cousin got married at a park and it was absolutely gorgeous!

Once you decide on your venue you can start deciding on everything else. Just start with one thing at a time. Make yourself a list or use one of the millions of wedding planning checklists online. They help a lot! This is jut second wedding and I'm still lost sometimes lol.

Hang in there and good luck with planning. We're all here to help =]

Best advice is research the internet n google the type of venue you're looking for thats how I found our venue

Okay so I was at this same exact point in the beginning too! I hated that I didn’t have anyone to really explain it to me! THANK GOD FOR WEDDING WIRE SERIOUSLY!!!!

TIPS: 1. You can use WW to help you plan, research, bounce off ideas & tips, post your own questions specific to your wedding and get feedback from real brides! 2. Have you got your date range? 3. I would say use weddingwire as much as you can (you’ll find a lot of us can relate!) 4. Research planning materials online & pick out stuff that mean something to YOU & YOUR FH! In the end that’s all that really matters. 5. If you have someone in your life that has experience but you personally trust their opinions & know they won’t try to persuade you to what they want - blow their phone up with your millions of curious questions! That’s the best support you could ever have. Don’t pick people that you know will try and live their “dream wedding” through you. Lol. 6. READ THE BAMS & PRO BAMS on here! These are real weddings with pics & brides tips advice etc. super helpful. 7. Create a physical binder of forms you need if you like, or even just use Google Docs to keep all paperwork/contracts/vendor info so that you can refer back to it on the go and as you plan.

QUESTIONS/ANSWERS: 1. Having both ceremony & reception in the same facility is good if you want to make it easier for your guests 2. Having it in diff spots that is convenient for your finances is good as well! 3. Transport for guests can be on them or you if you want to I feel. 4. Changing dress: do you want to? Some girls love their wedding day so much they want to change to have two “looks” some girls love THE dress & won’t. Its all up to you whatever makes you more comfortable/happy. 5. Hotel arrangements would be good depending on the day it is especially if you plan on having alcohol I guess bc they can go rest nearby rather than traveling all the way back in my opinion. 6. Set a budget if you haven’t already! A realistic budget that includes yours & your fh if you guys are paying alone etc. this will help you along the way to make decisions of cutting things or just having the most meaningful components to you.

Of course you don’t have to listen to my words if you don’t agree, in the end it’s your day & you can take each step at a time so that you’re not so overwhelmed. Hope this helped! Congrats & good luck!!!

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Thank you SOOO much for this piece of advice. I was thinking of going the AirBnb route; having the wedding in the backyard (which is huge) and the reception indoors... The one I liked the most has 12 bedrooms lol. I just am not sure if we are going on a honeymoon or do something interesting where we have guests, if they want, stay with us in our AirBnb...

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Yeah, I've tried that and it's confusing me even more. I see all these pictures and videos of so many ideas and the next idea looks better than the last. Its driving me crazy.

View Quoted Comment I am so thankful I have WeddingWire. I don't really have anyone to discuss this sort of thing with. My mother and I don't speak and my father lives in a different and doesn't know I am getting married, I don't know him that well and so I don't feel comfortable discussing something so special to me with him. I definitely appreciate the feedback and advice that I have gotten so far from you all.

So, I set our wedding date for November 18th of this year. We actually met on November 18th back in 2013 and so I figured why not have our wedding on the date we met in that way we can continue with our "anniversary" Also, we tattooed 11/18/19 on our arms so that date for our wedding makes sense to me.

We made a list of everyone that will be attending and what we thought would be 50 people has dropped down to 30 lol and that is estimating a little high. Taking that into consideration, We've set our budget to $4,000. I know this seems absurd but we really want something simple yet beautiful. We want to focus more on the moment and what it means to us with our loved ones there to enjoy the moment with us. We are very simple people. I'm buying my dress from Etsy, I actually do my own hair and makeup as I do modeling and have been my own hairstylist and makeup artist.

I guess I am stuck on venue. I was thinking going the AirBnb route. Having something of a home wedding, with the ceremony outside and the reception inside. Now that I am thinking about it, November in Maine might be too cold... So no outdoor wedding ceremony. Sigh. If I do make hotel arrangements do I have to do o for all our guests, like cover the cost for hotel stay? The AirBnb that I found and actually liked had about 12 rooms, so would all our guests stay with us? lol. I don't know. I see why there are bridezillas, I am already on the verge of becoming one.