planning is consuming my life!

It's reallllly early to be planning so heavily. We were engaged for just under a year, and while we booked a few things right away, I waited until about 6 months before to do a lot.

It won't kill you to take a few weeks off. Put the brakes on talking about the wedding and talk about all the things you did before you got engaged. He's probably wondering somewhere in the back of his mind if you're still into him or if you just want a wedding. No guy (and some women) want the wedding to be all-consuming.

It doesn't matter how you justify it. He's told you enough is enough. You've got to find some way to spend time with him without discussing the wedding. period. I don't think he's being unreasonable.

It's 13 months away. . .you have time to just chill :-)

Oh goodness, if your wedding is over a year away, slow down, sweetie! You've got time!!!

Some guys really just don't get how important it is or why it's so exciting. I would only talk to him about it once a week if I were you. I only mention it to my FH if there's something I need him to do or decide upon.

I was like you at first very excited!! However, it does get very overwhelming to start doing everything at once. What i'm doing is taking each month as a project. For example, in September I booked my venue, in October I booked my DJ etc..Believe it's much easier that way

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Definitely back off for a while. We were engaged about 18 months. Right away we booked the big stuff like space, music and photography. Then we didn't do anything for at least 6-8 months.

I think guys freak out when women become wedding obsessed because all of a sudden they're different after the proposal, and the guy is like "what happened to my girlfriend?"

And honestly, NO ONE wants to hear that much about a wedding. So save it for these boards!

Planning can get overwhelming because there is just so much to think about. You have plenty of time. Tackle only one or two things at a time, like Turquoise said. Even at that rate you should have a good amount of the stuff completed by the summer. There are a handful of things that just can't be done until you get closer to the date (seating charts and finalizing flowers, cake, etc).

It is super norma to be excited and now is definitely the time to start looking at venues/vendors and those bigger types of things but you are definitely going to overwhelm him if you keep talking about all the small details like stds and linens this far out. I have my mind on the wedding 24-7 too but I try not to tell FH everything that's on my mind because he'd have a freakout session. Most guys just don't understand everything that goes into a wedding.

I'd recommend setting aside a time once a week for you guys to discuss wedding stuff together. That way he doesn't get overwhelmed with wedding stuff being mentioned every 5 minutes and you can lay all your ideas out on the table then!

I agree with Christina, my FH freaked out when I got a bit obsessed after we booked the venue with 14 months to go and told me I could only mention the wedding once a day to him. I told him that was a bit harsh as I was just going through the initial excitement and so he did relent. But, I understood his point so packed off a bit. I got fed with constant wedding stuff myself when it was so far away, so did nothing for a few months. Now as the wedding is getting nearer FH is actually getting more involved and has more opinions than I thought he would. He even turns the conversation to wedding talk sometimes with ideas he's had!!

I try and take out all my obsessing here on WW, and then talk to FH about other stuff. He still gets overwhelmed from time to time when I need his opinion...

FH gets annoyed when I talk wedding stuff all the time so that's why I come here to get my questions answered. Everyone is super supporting. And it's more fun then talking wedding with him anyways

I understand that you are excited but trust me hon, you will wear yourself OUT! Slow down and take time to be engaged!!

Take out all your excitement on us! We love to hear you ideas and plans so chat our ears off and get your FH a break, its what I do

Its normal to be excited but you are going to burn yourself out. Take it from me, i know for a fact. Keep going this way, you will reach the point that you wont even want to discuss the wedding. And to be honest, men dont get it. They dont understand, and they dont want to hear about it. Just take a break for a few weeks, let him know you are still into him, then plan on your own. Once you have solid plans, show them to him. THats what i do, i just make the plans and show them to him once im done. Trust me, it works a lot better than what you are doing.

I understand your excitement, but you have a lot of time before you need to really settle on some things. I would enjoy the holidays with your FH, leave wedding talking alone until after New Year's, and then start your planning in January/February because then you will be 1 year out.

As MrsStobe said, save all of that excitement for us! We get it and understand it. FH probably is just too overwhelmed with the details you're spitting out at him.

Men are more of the problem solvers, so, sometimes when we talk to them out of a vent/excitement, their mind starts trying to figure out where the problem is and how to solve it. Sometimes, there is NO problem, and we just want to talk!

I don't recommend planning everything so early. Your mind will change with time. I can't tell you how many times I've revamped the whole idea. Give yourself and your honey a break. It'll do you both some good. Come to us with ideas and thoughts. We'll be here to be excited for you.

I was like you at first too. I had a year and half long engagement and started off strong. Since I got lots of things done so early, now it's piddling along and it's really nice not to feel stressed.

I was bugging my FH a lot at first as well and that's when I joined WW. Thank goodness for this place b/c I get my wedding talk fill every day and now I rarely mention the wedding (mostly b/c planning is at a lull) so when I do, he's not annoyed by it.

You guys are all so great thank you very much i vow to not speak to FH about wedding planning anymore until after the new year... and even then i will keep it to a minimum..... just be prepared for all of you to hear from me often hehehe

We both have a 15' wedding Im very excited too and just like the other brides said WW has truly been a blessing to me. So far I have only booked the venue but next month I am going to start making appointments and booking the major vendors, Dj/photo/video. Im also going to start dress shopping judt to try on different silhouettes.

WW has helped me not talk wedding with my FH 24/7. Plus when I feel confused, down, or just want to vent, these ladies have been great! Give your FH's ears a break and talk everything wedding here

Tell us not him LOL. Def we will not be annoyed by it!

Don't include him in everything, just the last stages like the final four ideas....that way you get his opinion but it doesn't overwhelm him.

Make a "no wedding talk" day or two a week. This will give him the break he wants...you have is to bounce ideas off of

I think staying on here will help get the excited wedding bug out of your system. I was giddy at first, but then I started to get bombarded from families asking me what I want my dress to be like, what shoes will I wear, what jewelry, etc. we were engaged in June so i was more than a year away and I felt like yelling back off bitches! I have 15 months still!

I don't mind being giddy on here once in awhile and I love the craziness, but in real life I really hate doing all of it. It's a pain in my ass because I feel the pressure from people and what they are expecting and I just want it low key.