Planning for an Introverted Partner

This is awesome! What a cool partner! I’m pretty introverted as well and we are having a more intimate wedding, I don’t have any advice really, but I just wanted to say congratulations and how cool of him to want that!

View Quoted Comment RIGHT?! He's a keeper!

View Quoted Comment Really!!! I definitely think the games are a cool idea! They have companies where you can rent like, giant jenga, connect four, and that kinda stuff.

That is odd because mine is introverted and wants to elope lol. Lucky. I would say small ceremony but large reception or large ceremony and just a casual reception. I would imagine that at a party he can chill and drink no? Are you asking because you are just planning or has he expressed his concerns? I feel like if he wants the big wedding and has not said anything do not stress over it. I think as long as you do not have anything that directly puts the attention on you two you should be fine.

View Quoted Comment He has not expressed concerns - this is all me looking ahead to make sure he enjoys the day as much as I do. He HAS brought up a smaller ceremony though and I think it is a good idea as the reception still feels like a wedding.

View Quoted Comment I definitely want to have a games section. I also love the idea of "mingle-bingo" where the guests are getting to know EACH OTHER better, for a prize, of course!

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You mean a small reception ceremony? The only downside is that some people come more for the reception and may get offended being invited to the wedding but not the reception. One idea but more work is (pending if you have not booked anything or sent invites) is to have the wedding mid afternoon, do a small cocktail hour for guests and cake cutting then a small reception for the evening with close friends and family???

View Quoted Comment No I meant small ceremony and large reception. I specify making that reception "feel like a wedding" for the guests who haven't attended the ceremony.

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Ahhhhh *head smack*. LOL. That was my original thought but I got confused. That is what my FH agreed to. An elopement him and I (worse case if they throw a fit his dad, mom and sister) and then a post elopement reception. That way it is a chill party and there are no eyes specifically on him.

Have the big wedding, and practice smiling and nodding and saying thank you for coming. I’m introverted too but in the moment it was fine.

Wow...your FH sounds like my FH. The big wedding was kind of his idea. One thing I know for sure he will loosen up once he gets a couple of drinks in.
He is not the one to dance but he knows what to expect at our reception so he is already mentally preparing himself for that.

View Quoted Comment That’s so cool! Bingo is so much fun, and that sounds like a fun way to get to know people

Honestly speaking, people are more interested in the bride ahaha so he may get away with just mingling with only the people he's comfortable with and only greeting other guests aha because that's how it was at my wedding.

Awe i'm happy he is willing to have the big wedding still!!!

Maybe have a head table instead of sweetheart table so its not just you two.

only do your first dance by yourselves for like a minute and then invite all the other couples to join you

View Quoted Comment I've heard of one wedding starting with a dance for the couple together the longest (usually an eldey pair) and slowly the bandleader counts down for couples to join them ("jump in if you've been together 15 years... 10 years... 8 years...ect) until they call out "now join the dance flow if you've been married for 1 hour and 15 minutes!!!" Then it is big happy party already with the dancing

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YES!!! the anniversary dance

sometimes they do it the opposite too. like all couples are dancing and if you've been married less than 5 years you exit the floor. then 15, then 10, 20 etc etc.

I'm sure you guys will have an amazing day!