Planning during Covid

Yes, ma'am. Well, even before covid, I wasn't super excited bc my family didn't seem to be thrilled. Now, with COVID, everyone is focused on their own issues, which is understandable.

We had wedding plans for summer 2021... though we didn’t have everything planned, COVID sucked the last bit of hope we did have at make this wedding happen sooner than later. So I guess we will be doing a small ceremony now (IDK how many people we’d invite or even when anymore). Maybe once everything is back to some sense of ‘normal,’ we’d do a reception in summer 2022.


Still trying to figure out if I want to alter my wedding dress now (for the small ceremony) and pray it fits two years from now... or if I should settle for something simpler... Urgh. Maybe we’ll just elope? Who knows!?!?

I had this same feeling but once things started loosening up and we are 45 day's out, the wedding excitement has finally returned. I think once you start getting into physical wedding events like trying on dresses, parties (no matter how small) and it starts getting real that it's happening. I'm starting to book the last minute beauty things like lashes and nails/hair appt's and it's making it more real.

Yes 😩 .. sorry I’m going to vent..

Between scheduling issues and uncertainty To trying to plan the details I’m just tired and not excited ☹️
Wedding planning, to me, is so draining and stressful and knowing that all my plans and vision for the day could have to be completely rewritten due to Covid is disheartening. The venue I’ve booked is a large estate house that has an amazing library-turned-bar that’s beautiful but I don’t know if people will be able to fully enjoy it bc it’s a smallish room. I also really want a grazing table but for safety reasons who knows if that can happen & I really want a chill family style farm table dinner with everyone together and then yard games afterwards but I don’t want to risk peoples’ health for something like this 😓 like yes it’s a wedding, but health and safety come first I don’t know how I would handle it if people got sick from my wedding 😰
Basically I’m stressed because I feel like I need to make at least five different game plans. Regular, regular with rain, Covid ‘normal’, Covid ‘normal’ with rain, greatly reduced numbers, etc etc
And the honeymoon! 😱 I want to go to Europe but we can’t even get in right now! Who knows when they’ll start opening up the borders for US passports again 😭

Yes!!! I feel this so much! I’m like ok, do I need to make a 25, 50, and 100 person list in case we need to downsize? Am I selfish for not wanting to have to downsize in the first place? Am I being vain for not wanting all my wedding pictures to have guests in masks? I never thought I would get married this late in my life and I’m feeling resentful of all my friends that got to have their normal big weddings.

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"Am I selfish for not wanting to have to downsize in the first place? Am I being vain for not wanting all my wedding pictures to have guests in masks?" ALL OF THIS!!!

I don't want to have the make the decision of who is and isn't allowed to come to a downsized wedding - everyone that we're inviting is on the guest list for a reason and to not be able to have all of them there is not something I really want to consider or be forced into doing due to factors outside of my control.

Part of me knows that there is a very good chance that people physically won't be able to come if situations don't improve/a vaccine is released (including one of my bridesmaids who has been one of my best friends since we were like 12). But I also don't want to postpone a year (or indefinitely). I'm ready to get married and start this next chapter with my fiancé and I want our friends and family there to celebrate with us.

In conclusion, COVID sucks.

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Hey Amanda. I have been feeling the same - I am getting married in 45 days too. As the small things come together, it starts to feel real. One of the things I keep telling myself is, that even though the reception may not look like I wanted it to before we ended up in a global pandemic, that I will be married and it will be magical. It seems to me that all of us pandemic brides are forced to really embrace the selflessness that marriage and love mean, which I am trying to learn from it at least.

And let's be honest - we are gonna have 2 honeymoons! The mini-moon and then the real thing when we can finally travel out of the country! haha

View Quoted Comment I agree I don’t want a single mask in a picture either lol but you can’t tell people not to wear a mask they would probably leave if they’re uncomfortable. Some people are embracing being a Covid bride but it’s just not a fun time. I’m having all the same feelings as you. My wedding is set for 1/15/21 in Cancun and I feel like a jerk not cancelling but I want to get married and have babies and I don’t want to push that back any further we will both be 30 this year. I don’t mind people not going and having a small wedding with just family but I feel bad even asking family to come. Then the thought of making a plan b is totally stressing me out!

That is life, but honestly after COVID basically cancelled my current wedding venue, they basically told me there was a good chance that we couldn't get married at their venue, even though it was all outdoors. We decided to screw it all and search for a new venue that basically promised us they weren't going to cancel out on me. @_@ My wedding is four months away, and I'm not gonna let anything stop me.

I completely understand what you are going through. I got engaged in October of 2019 well before the pandemic. I was so excited to plan our wedding and really got a jump on things. I had my dress purchased about a week after getting engaged, venue booked and most of our vendors secured. And then the bottom fell out. My husband and I were fortunate to still have worked during the whole time our state was shutdown so I could have most likely finished all of our wedding plans but with the uncertainty of our October 10th, 2020 wedding even being able to happen I completely stopped doing anything wedding related. My balloon had been deflated, my mojo had been lost and I just frankly didn't give a damn. But then as we got closer to our date and the state started to reopen I got more excited and started planning again. Needless to say I was behind in my planning process and I wish I would have just continued to keep planning but thankfully our day went exactly as planned and we didn't let Covid ruin a damn thing! I wish you luck and would give you advice to just keep planning unless you know for sure you can't have your wedding when or how you want. Side note....we had an outdoor ceremony with about 70 people in attendance and around 160 people at our reception without anyone getting sick and I don't feel guilty about it at all.

We're getting married October 2021 and this was me, initially. Some days I fear we won't be able to have the wedding I've always dreamed of with our family and friends there. But I'm trying to remain positive and optimistic that no matter what, it will be beautiful, magical, and amazing. Its okay to feel disappointed and uncertain but I agree with everyone that says once you start doing little things, it'll become real. I caught Covid a month after I was engaged and had to postpone my dress shopping that I'd already scheduled. Once I was able to do it, I felt so much better about the future of my wedding and marriage. Hugs, love, and positivity sent to you

That is how I felt as well.
Even with our wedding being October 2021 I'm still nervous about the fact of potentially having to reschedule, plus with our honeymoon being a cruise down to the Bahamas. However when I started going to my dress appointments it helped make me feel better and perk my mood up. I keep myself in the wedding planning mode in the hopes that things will improve (distract myself) and maybe it won't be such a high concern by that time next year. I try to take it moment by moment and day by day.

I 150% feel this way. My wedding is supposed to be November 2021, and I actually asked my fiancé if we could just cancel. It’s very stressful trying to figure out what is going to happen. Honestly, all my energy and excitement is drained. My entire family is saying it’s going to be okay and it will be better, but I don’t really want to spend a ton of money on something that isn’t what I wanted 🤷🏻‍♀️

I get how you are feeling. I'm going to just plan as normal and as we get closer to the day we will make the decision as to what will the changes be. We just have to have hope that COVID will not be the total big bad wolf when our special days get closer. Because for sure this virus is not going away any time soon.