Planning around covid

You should invite only what your venue is allow to hold at the moment. The don’t want to scramble and make phone calls telling people they can’t come after they rsvp. I’m venue holds 200 people but we’re only allow to have 58 guests and so that’s all we’ve invited. It sucks but that is part of having a wedding during Covid.

We found a church to accommodate the 126 people we invited at their 50% capacity... we expect less than that amount to come, so the exact amount of guests will be interesting

View Quoted Comment The current numbers for banquet halls is only 25 people, that is not looking good for us. The venue can hold up to 125 people. We are keeping our fingers crossed for that number to increase so we can at least to have about 50-75 people, however that count also includes the wedding party

View Quoted Comment The guest count will be interesting for us to as some people may choose not to come due to different reasons so in the end it may just all work out. Just trying to think positive and work thru this COVID madness.

I'm kind of dreading having to send my invitations out next month. We have a guest list of 65, reduced from ~130 and we can currently have 25 in Virginia. We're still going to get married if we can only have 25, but crossing my fingers and hoping for the best at this point!

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Send out save the dates so that people have your date on their radar. Your wedding is still four months away so hopefully you can invite the amount of guest you want by then. Definitely wait till

You’re closer to your wedding date to send out the invitations in case restriction gets change.

View Quoted Comment Yes we sent out saves the dates already, just waiting to see how things go as it gets closer to the date, thanks

View Quoted Comment I agree we are still going to get married on our chosen date, it’s just the idea of not knowing how many people we can have, and sending out the invitations and all the other planning.....keep my fingers crossed for all of us during this time, good luck!

My FH abd I didn't want to risk anything as far as losing money, restrictions changing; so we decided to elope.

My fiancé and I made guest lists cuts and rearranged our wedding last fall before any save the date was sent. We decided to plan for the worst while hoping for the best. Though my state starting this week is allowing weddings of 150 people and dancing we have decided to keep our 46 guest list because things change everyday and we’d hate to have to last minute uninvite people or restructure our wedding again. We’re planning on having our reception be a nice sit down dinner space out our special dances, speeches and play newlywed trivia but play it in a way that has guest involvement almost like a game show. It just feels easier to play and plan it safe. June is still 2 and a half months out and a lot can change in either direction in that time.

So, we just went through this (in VA). We sent save the dates last year as usual, and then when things started shutting down again in early December, we had a conversation with our coordinator about the best course of action. We had 86 on our list, and we are getting married next Saturday.

Her recommendation was to push sending invites to the end of January and send them all. We updated the website to tell people where the current restrictions were, what we were hoping for, what our contingencies were, and what the plan was IF we could have everyone attend (mask requirement, sanitizing stations, distancing, etc). We also put a similar card into the invites.

When the new restrictions were released end of Feb, we talked to our coordinator and our venue (we're 10 indoors, 25 outdoors) to figure out our options, and then we started contacting people who had RSVP'ed yes that were no longer invited. It SUCKED. But, we also talked to our DJ and he will be streaming the ceremony for us. We are 21, including us. We'll send the streaming link out for the ceremony, and that way people who still want to watch but can't attend will be able to be there.

It sucks, but this was what worked for us, our "must haves," and our vendors.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for sharing, we also are planning to livestream the ceremony, it’s just frustrating at this point. But we will work it out! Have a beautiful time at your upcoming wedding

Luckily things have just kind of really worked out for us and I haven't had to think too much about COVID restrictions. I always wanted to get married in a church, but since we can't have alcohol at a reception at our church we would need a separate reception venue. It ended up just being too expensive to have separate venues, so now we're getting married in the gorgeous garden area of an athletic club. Since it's outdoors, the capacity restrictions aren't so crazy. Our guest list was never huge to begin with, so we don't actually have to cut it down at all. We will be live streaming our ceremony for those who prefer not to gather at this time or are in high-risk categories. To be fair, I probably would have wanted to live stream the ceremony even if we weren't in plague times. We'll have some sanitizing stations set up and probably provide an extra box of masks for guest use.

A lot of what is open or restricted will just depend on where you live. I'm in CA and our restrictions are different per county and whether the venue is public or private and so on an so forth. We're looking pretty on track for our 4.24.2021 wedding and the venue hasn't said otherwise.

View Quoted Comment I’m also getting married in Virginia in 2 months - May 15th. We’re hoping and keeping our fingers crossed that numbers will go up by then and we could have at least 50 but more like 75-80. 25 would be nothing. Pre-covid we planned to invite 200 people and expect about 150.


If Virginia followed Maryland to have 50% capacity we'd be set, but nearing the date with 25 ppl mac outdoors is really starting to make me so anxious. Thats my immediate family, his immediately family and maybe a few cousins and my closest aunt and uncle. It’s really too little, it makes me really sad

Once we found out that our venue was able to hold 100 people for 50% capacity, we took advantage of that. However, we two sets of invites because we didn’t know what the restrictions would be closer to the wedding date, and we gave BP and immediate family top priority. I didn’t want to be put in a position of over inviting and having to un-invite people later on. It ended up working out though.

I didn’t expect to get so many declines, so we’ll end up having a smaller/more intimate wedding with immediate family and close friends/BP anyway. Certainly not a bad thing, but just something to think about, as different people have different comfort levels with covid. Another plus is that if by any chance the restrictions get lowered to 25% capacity, we should still be okay. Not going to lie and say it hasn't been stressful (currently working on the seating chart to "comply" with COVID restrictions), but it didn't make sense to postpone yet again.