Planning after a death in the family.

I Am sorry for your lose. I am planning with out my mom. Maybe take a week or two off from planning. Just allow yourself to be sad anf mourn the loss.

I am! We planned our engagement and delayed announcing it for six months, my grandmother died, she was 91.
I'll tell you it takes my entire soul not to cry when vendors ask about how many grandparents are coming.
We are lucky my fiance's grandfather has agreed to be our officiant, he's the last grandparent we have and we plan on living it up. Try to look for the silver lining.

My condolences darling girl. I know your pain all to well. I lost two siblings in the past year and it down indeed hurt. Try to remember the good times and all the stories and laughter. The simple memories are the best ones. It will take a long time to feel somewhat better but she is always with you. Incorporate something of hers Into your special day and have a memory spot for her and any others.
All our love

I'm so sorry for your loss, it's never easy to lose a loved one. A friend of mine lost her father about 3 months before her wedding. He was diagnosed with leukemia about the same time they were engaged, so she knew the chances of her dad being there on the wedding day were slim. Luckily her older sister stepped in to be there of her in their father's place. They played all of her dad's favorite songs during the reception and everyone had a blast.

I am so sorry for your loss. That sucks. I’m sorry you are hurting. 🙏🏻

We are donating all of our flowers to a children’s hospital in memory of my grandmother. She spent lots of time bringing joy to children’s hospitals so it just seems right. My fiancé lost her Father and we are having an ice cream bar in his honor- they loved eating ice cream together. There are beautiful ways to remember them on such a day but I think knowing that they are with us, just in a different way, comforts me and I can feel my Grandma’s love. 💗

Sending you love and light 💕

First of all I am so sorry for your loss! I lost my grandpa two years ago and planning this wedding without him here has definitely been rough. Since your wedding isn't until April I would totally take a break from it and just allow yourself to be emotional and grieve.
On a brighter note- I added you as a friend since we are wedding month buddies! ☺️

Unfortunately I can relate to you and I'm so sorry you're going through this. The only advice I have is to slow down and give yourself time. You will go through a roller coaster of emotions and you dont want to move too quickly on anything. I've felt an enormous amount of guilt everyday that I couldn't throw a wedding together before I lost my grandma. She lost her husband (my grandpa) and her only son (my uncle) in the last 15 months of her life and she was SO looking forward to a celebration where the family could get together NOT for a funeral. She died suddenly in April and I feel like I let her down. She asked me about my wedding plans every time I saw her and she begged me to let her buy my dress. Ugh, it's making me sick to my stomach thinking about it now. Life sucks sometimes and I hope you can get through these tough days. Blessings to you!

I’m very sorry for your loss. Both of my parents are deceased and even though it isn’t a recent loss I understand what you’re going through. What has helped me get through all the wedding planning is figuring out how to subtly acknowledge my parents at the reception. I plan to weave a large, yarn wall tapestry and hang it up in the reception space. I’ll print out a short note explaining the tribute to my parents and how they have impacted my life etc. I believe the process of creating the tapestry and writing out my feelings will provide some healing as those emotions inevitably come out. Maybe you can find some way to commemorate your grandmother, whether it be a bouquet of her favorite flowers, a candle lit in her memory, or a donation in her name. I’ve heard some people like to leave a chair empty for their lost loved one, post their picture somewhere at the wedding, or mention them in the programs. Choose something that feels right to you and helps you to feel happier while planning.

My grandfather was supposed to walk me down the aisle...... but he died before my Fiancé proposed and it hurts my heart to not have him there physically.

Honor her by having a small charm made, Shutterfly, and pinning it to your bouquet. Just don’t toss that one! Have a small spot reserved for her at ceremony and a candle & picture on a table, maybe an empty chair for her at a table?

Im sooooo soooo sorry honey. She WILL be with you in spirit, and while not the same, take comfort she loved you and will watch you on your special day.

I just lost my favorite aunt (my mom’s sister) in the middle of planning. It’s tough! You want it be happy and excited but then sadness and grief comes over you. You might even feel a little guilty about continuing the planning process. I sort of am backing off bombarding my mom for now and giving her space so it’s not just wedding central all the time. Although it’s hard, life goes on and it’s okay to be happy. I’m sure she would have wanted that for you. She will watch over you and be with you in other ways on your special day. Good luck!

First my sincerest condolences to you & your entire family. Second, my Grammie passed away 2 months after I got engaged. My entire world came to a compete halt. Wedding planning was the furthest thing from my mind as I couldn’t imagine getting married without her. I really struggled with this loss & my FH knew it. I explained to him how I felt & he was more than happy to wait until I got back in the swing of things. We got engaged in 2014. Then his Grandma passed as well ☹️ So I say all that to say we’re finally ready to have our big day & celebrate knowing their both in heaven guiding us to the alter & saying “ABOUT TIME, LOL”. We’re tying the knot this NYE! Yaay! It may take you a few months or a few years. Just be open & honest about how you feel & you’ll know what to do & when you want to do it 😊

My mom passed away Feb 2000, and my dad passed this past Feb, and we are getting married in Sept.

I am sorry for your loss. I have never been through this but I lost grandmother shortly after the birth of my son. She was unable to met him because she was in a nursing home. I regret often not just taking the baby in to see her but I know she was so excited and happy I was having a baby boy before she past so I know she is watching over us. If your grandmother approves of your fiancé and you know she would be happy for you then plan knowing she is with you and wants you to be happy!

View Quoted Comment I’m sorry about your mom. Thank you. Yes I took about a month before I even reopened this app. Good luck on your planning!

View Quoted Comment Aww that’s awesome that he is going to do that. And yeah I’m still in the stage where people that don’t know it happened ask me how she is and I lose it. She was able to dress shop with me and when she passed she told me how excited she was for me and that she’d be watching from above. 😭

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much and I’m sorry to hear about that. Yeah it’s definitely the worst thing I have gone through hands down. I will definitely be having an area for her stuff! All the chairs at our wedding are going to be different so she’s going to have a big beautiful one and my florist is going to decorate it with her favorite flowers. I will have her picture and her urn there. And then a memory table.

View Quoted Comment Aww I love that the sister did that. That is so hard to go through that close to the wedding. I hadn’t thought about playing one of her favorite songs but that’s a really good idea!!!

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! And yes for real it does suck. It’s the worst. I love that you are donating your flowers! That is amazing! I was thinking I would take our out to the cemetery and spread them around

Yes ! I have gone through the same thing, I’m so sorry for your loss! .. my grandmother passed Feb 2018 and my FH proposed to me Aug 2018.. there were countless nights I cried because this is one thing I know she would have loved to be part of and see come together. I craft and every time I craft she was right next to me watching it all come together so when it came to crafts for the wedding it was really hard, sometimes still is, to complete projects because it felt like a part was Missing. However, if there is one thing I know for sure is that even though they aren’t physically here they are always watching over us, and by our side each and every day .

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It was really sweet- her sister walked her down the aisle too.