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Just Said Yes October 2020

Planning a wedding with covid :(

Fatima, on July 17, 2020 at 5:24 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 6

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Hi all! Please feel free to let out your distress here on this post. If you’re like me trying to plan a wedding during uncertain times with COVID, I am sure you are also feeling stagnant. I feel SO stuck. These are supposed to be the best times but I can’t really move forward or backwards if that makes sense.

I had originally planned my wedding for end of October. I also have to plan a bachelorette, get a house, move out my stuff, plan a bridal shower, etc. Now, with everything “opening” back up it still has me feeling unsure because I do not want to force anyone to come to my event if they do not feel comfortable but at the same time cannot have a wedding without people I care about there with me.
I’m still deciding about going through with the wedding in October or extending it until next year because I don’t want anyone to feel left out if there are restrictions. It’s just a whole mess if can imagine.
Sadly, I also do not have anything checked off my list except the venue. Yep. You heard me right. No wedding dress. No cake. No shoes. No honeymoon set up. No invites. Also, I will probably lose my makeup and hair artist for the day of the wedding if I change the date. It’s unusual because I’m usually very punctual, I like to plan things ahead and give myself some time to breath with projects and such. This... isn’t my game.
I’m spiraling into an angry state also known as bridezilla 😂 I’m trying to be vulnerable and open about my journey because this is not fun at all. At the same time I’m trying to be understanding of people’s health and the risks that come with it. I just want to hear what you guys are going through as well so I feel like I’m not the only one going through this.
Like I mentioned... feel free to open up and talk about it. Let’s help each other out. ❤️

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Latest activity by Alexandra, on July 18, 2020 at 8:06 PM

Super October 2020
Eri · on July 17, 2020 at 6:09 PM
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Fellow October bride here!
About the planning, it's funny - I had all of my vendors pretty much locked in by the end of 2018, except for flowers and makeup/hair, which I booked last fall. But after sending out my save-the-dates in February, I've barely done anything. My bridesmaids don't have dresses. Our groomsmen don't have tuxes. I haven't ordered favors or any decorations.
I was initially planning on starting all that stuff in March, but for obvious reasons, have not been motivated. It's a bummer because I actually have really enjoyed planning our wedding and didn't find it stressful at all - even through June. Now that more restrictions are being put into place and the calendar keeps moving forward, it's very paralyzing. We're trying to make decisions, but also trying to wait, and I hate it.
If we were younger or didn't want kids, I would've postponed the wedding months ago to save my sanity. But we're getting married on 10/10, and I am wearing my dress! Even if it's just us, the officiant, and our parents/siblings, that's ok with me.
You sound like you have a lot more going on than us, though! A house will be the next milestone we're looking forward to, but I feel like that's still quite a ways off!
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Dedicated June 2021
Christine · on July 17, 2020 at 9:16 PM
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Girl I’m with you! I already postponed my May 2020 wedding to November 2020. I’m already worrying about postponing yet AGAIN! This is all so stressful! I want to get married so we can start our life together and have kids. It’s sad that the best day of our lives has been nothing but hectic. Honestly I wish I postponed until next May 2021 originally. I’m terrified I’ll lose my vendors or deposits if I postpone again. AND with everyone else postponing who knows what dates will be available? I have no clue what to do.
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Just Said Yes September 2021
Noja · on July 17, 2020 at 11:20 PM
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We originally were scheduled for April and postponed to September and SO has his schedule changed due to...you know it! Covid (he works offshore) so we are having to move forward this time to August which is just a few weeks from now.
Let's not forget a couple of people are scared, a couple of people feel we should go on (so far about 80+ want to come), my parents are stuck in another country and can't make it, 60% of the bridal party is stuck in Europe and Texas may be thinking of shutting down again🤷🏽‍♀️.
As of now, August wedding is still going as planned with whispers of prayers and fingers crossed.
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Dedicated December 2020
KK77 · on July 18, 2020 at 1:33 AM
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What a year! Planned for a June 20/20 wedding and told people in January. Then Covid......we decide to postpone. Moving back into my house (relocated for another job and came back) that the tenants destroyed, then a water leak. Move during covid, forced remodel with an insurance claim during covid.....then 94 year old grandmother breaks her hip during covid. Hospital/rehab/hospital/rehab then assisted living. FH delayed back surgery in March (covid) moved to end of June. Remodel continuing. Camping above the garage because the house is completely stripped and its hard getting materials with .....wait for it.....covid. Grandmother moving towards hospice now. Tried to schedule an elopement in her town with my aunt and family (mother passed away 12 years ago) and she is now back in lock down. .
Truly the one shining light through all of this is how connected and aligned my FH and I are. We have had NO fights over this. No bickering. Stuff happens (like an amorous forklift destroys your kitchen cabinets....seriously tire tracks ON the boxes ON the pallet.....that takes some skill) we talk about is and start laughing because really that is all that's left! We regroup and figure it out. Look at the budget discuss what we want to do next.
I love this man, and I look forward to being his wife. I am a lucky woman and found my soulmate.
COVID SUCKS!!!!!!
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Dedicated October 2027
Margarie · on July 18, 2020 at 7:57 AM
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I’m sad, pissed, then rational and thinking of the safety of everyone at the same time in our decision to postpone until next September 4th instead of this September. I just want to cry a little bit but I won’t.
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Dedicated March 2021
Alexandra · on July 18, 2020 at 8:06 PM
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My wedding isn’t until March 2021, but those feelings that you have and every other bride has, I can relate too. I live in New Jersey and we were in complete lockdown for about 4 months, and during that time I was drawing up Plan B and Plan C for what we would do if newer restrictions get put in place in the fall/winter. I’m just trying to stay positive and pray every day that we will be ok next year, but of course we won’t know until a few months from now when we need to make some decisions. Still super stressed and not have that happy, excited, gitty feeling we as brides have when we plan a wedding.
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