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Planning a wedding while going through grief

Taylor, on May 31, 2017 at 4:06 PM Posted in Planning 0 8

Hi Everyone,

I was engaged in December and a few weeks later, my grandmother passed away. She was like a mother and my everything. I am completely crushed. I am getting married April 2018. I am obviously excited, but I have days I am not. Has anyone ever gone through this? Its so tough planning this without her here and her guidance. Thanks everyone Smiley smile

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Latest activity by Lucio@Last, on May 31, 2017 at 5:22 PM
  • Sara
    Master April 2017
    Sara ·
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    I'm so sorry for your loss! Take it one step at a time. You have plenty of time to plan so you can take a day off when you arent feeling up to it. Remember she would want you to have an amazing wedding and she will be with you that day!

    Maybe have a charm on your bouquet with her photo or wear a piece of her jewelry as your "something old"

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    Master April 2018
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    I'm so sorry.

    It sounds like your range of emotions is totally normal. The loss is still pretty fresh, be patient with yourself.

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  • Kiera
    Expert September 2017
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    So sorry to hear that Taylor! I feel for you. I lost my mom in 2013 and had to postpone planning my wedding b/c I didn't think I could do it w/o her. Sometimes I still feel that way. It gets easier is all I can say but sometimes you'll stil have days where you can't even fathom how to move forward without her. Luckily you have your FH to love and support you and all of us on WW as well!

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  • SweetAugustBride
    Super August 2018
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    I'm so sorry for your loss. My mom passed away a couple years ago and she was always talking about whenever I get married and how she wanted to be a part of it (every time I'd visit home from college, she'd ask if FH had proposed to me yet. Like she was literally waiting for that day). FH proposed to me 7 months later after she passed. I wish she was here. Especially for my planning since I don't really have anyone else (I have FMIL but, it's not the same). I will be getting a charm that has her photo in it for my bouquet. Stay strong. I know it's hard but, you can get through it. You will have your ups and downs but, you just gotta stay strong.

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  • mrsmack
    VIP April 2017
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    I'm so sorry for your loss.

    My grandmother passed in January and it hit our family very hard. I had to take a break from planning for a while and there were times when it still felt as though it was overwhelming, and the thought of not having her at the wedding broke my heart. DH was my rock through it, and it helped to lean on my family. Be patient with yourself, and give yourself as much time as you need to grieve and to process things. Take it a day at a time.

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    Beginner April 2018
    Taylor ·
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    Thank you all for the kind words. I appreciate it more than you know. It's helpful not feeling all alone with this.

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  • FutureMrs.Larson
    Devoted June 2017
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    So sorry for your loss. I do not know what I would do if my grandmother or mom passed away while wedding planning...

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  • Lucio@Last
    Super June 2018
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    I am very sorry for your loss. I can't imagine your grief. Just take it one day at a time, and maybe lean on your FI to help with the wedding planning more during the times you just don't feel up to it. Just know that your grandmother would want more than anything for this to be a happy time for you. But it is completely understandable why it is so difficult to make it a completely joyful experience. My condolences

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