Planning a wedding alone

Planning really should fall the on the bride and grooms shoulders. H was kind of the same way, didnt care about much of the details. It was easier for me to take lead and give him option A and option B of things.

Good thing you have wedding wire for if you need help with ideas and searching for anything

I planned mine all on my own too! I don't have a wedding party. I really enjoyed the process of planning (the wedding itself I feel anxious about), but then again I don't have a 9 year old. I found that planning it alone you can just make all the decisions without having to listen to other's well-intended advice. I am a control freak though!

Yes, this is what I'm doing too. FH is only interested in the music, so we've talked at length about that. Otherwise, he's not into the planning much. He will give me his opinion, as long as I narrow it down to option A and option B.

Most of us are doing it "alone" in that sense. My daughter (MOH) and cousin (BM) are nearby, but both have very full busy lives and kids of their own, and just don't have the time to spend with me, planning every aspect. Same with my sister (MOH), which is even more difficult because she lives in another state. Luckily for me, they are all available by phone, email, etc. and are willing to give me opinions on stuff too. They just aren't right there with me. But anytime I need an opinion, I can send my sister some pics, and she'll tell me what she thinks. If you have people like that, even if they aren't geographically close by, you can still get their input.

Try not to get discouraged. You still have all of us here at WW!! Good luck.

Technically, you and FH are the only ones expected to plan. I see why you're disappointed though! That's what we're here for - to support and help you

Have you considered hiring a planner?

View Quoted Comment So what I meant was like making center pieces or picking out flowers that look good together or deciding on dress colors all that girly stuff. My FH will say yes to anything and think everything looks good because well he is a man and has no taste in flowers or matching colors. We are planning everything. From the type of food to the location to the music and all that

View Quoted Comment No, I want to do it all on my own as far as how it will look. Plus we are paying for mostly everything and that would be something I have to pay for. I’ve had a few offers from ppl I know but I have nightmares where I show up to my wedding and nothing is how I want it, flowers are missing, no one has seats, my FH is in jeans just stuff like that 😂

View Quoted Comment That’s how I am but I am getting hung up on centerpieces and flowers and colors and it’s just stressing me out and making me miss my home state 😭

I really appreciate all the feedback though, it’s making me feel like “I got this”

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Ugh making each decision feels like pretty high stakes! It does get easier though, once you've made some big ones, at least for me! I'm getting married in 17 days and I am still doubting that I made the correct choices. I am a control freak but also very indecisive.

View Quoted Comment I am sure it will be perfect! 🥰

I have a similar problem. My MoH and Bridesmaid both live in the east coast and I’m in Colorado lol. I got my dress already because my mom happened to be in town and I wanted her to go with me. My FH wants to hear about what I’m thinking, but has no actual opinions of his own other than “that sounds good” which is really not helpful. I still have a little over a year and a half before my wedding, I can only imagine how stressful it’s gonna be doing it myself as the date gets closer

View Quoted Comment That will be me in December— Getting my dress because my mom will be in town. Wasn’t planning on the dress until April/May but what’s a few extra months lol. I am on the east and my bridesmaids are on the west! Haha. Ugh this is so frustrating. Maybe I’ll give in and just get a planner

If he's "not into planning much" and you're also not into planning much, he shouldn't just opt out. Either you have a wedding that requires less planning, or he takes his share.

I was in pretty much the same position. All of my girls live in other states. Thank heavens for my FH! He has been absolutely amazing. I haven't had to go to one appointment or made a single decision alone.

Before we started planning the wedding we talked and I told him that this isn't just my day, that it was OUR day and I couldn't do it without him.

He has totally stepped up and was by my side the entire time.

I have the opposite situation, I have everyone wanting to help and offer their opinion but I want to do everything myself, I love searching the internet and reading the different weddig forums for ideas. I do alot of screenshotting and texting to my BMs and MOH for their opinion and we've attended wedding shows together but for the most part everyday when i get off work and Im on laptop for a minimum of two hours searching and planning. I Love it!!

I know how you feel, we’re getting married in our home state which is 580 miles away, so it’s super hard to plan anything with my MOH or anyone back home really. My fiancé and FMIL help as much as they can but I’m essentially doing everything on my own. We’ve only been engaged for (almost) 4 months and so far it’s been okay.

You can definitely do this!! I'm planning my wedding all by myself. My FH could care less about the details, lol!! I sometimes wish he would have an opinion but on the other hand, I can do it however I want without having to please anyone else!! I do have a best friend, my maid of honor, that I can ask about flowers, decor, my dress, ect. I am so sorry you don't have that!! I definitely understand how that could be stressful!! I don't know what I would do if I had no one to go to and ask, "Do you prefer the silk runners or sequin??" Again, so sorry you don't have that!! But, why don't you come on here, take pics and ask other brides opinions, that's what I would do!! If you'd like, I'd be more than happy to help you!! Just message me with pics or questions, whatever you need, and is be happy to give my opinions!! Good luck with everything!! Hopefully I'll hear from ya!!