Picky guest meal - please help!

I'm really tempted to just say go with option 3 because this person seems ridiculous. Otherwise, I would go with option 1. I think option 2 is a little much, and then what if other guests are like "hey, I want a burger!"

Option 3. We’re all grown and this wedding isn’t about any individual guest, but about you and your new spouse. He can’t possibly expect to have a custom meal at every wedding/birthday party/large event he goes to.


Also, spaghetti is a mess with kids 😩

Number 3. If it were a food allergy or intolerance issue, I’d answer completely differently, but his pickiness is not your problem to solve. You are offering three reasonable options, if he goes hungry, that’s his choice.

This guest is ridic. Option 3!

Number 3, there’s more things to think/worry about with your wedding besides his meal.

I’m an extremely picky eater as well so I understand him. I don’t like salmon either and I don’t eat chicken on the bone. Also most vegetarian options often involve a portobello mushroom… yuck, or a mushy mix of veggies… double yuck!!! 😝


Sadly, people are quick to give passes to vegetarians, vegans or gluten-free eaters who want special accommodations. Yet they turn their noses up to adults who have particular palates. Since I know picky eaters get judged, I simply tell restaurants that I have allergy issues and I quickly receive the VIP treatment 😉 Believe me, it’s not easy and we do not desire to be picky. But we also realize that the accommodations are really no different than the categories of special eaters I listed above.
So, of course you can certainly go with choice #3 and waste money. But, really, why would you do that when you actually have 2 other options?

I am torn because we are providing a special meal to someone, but at the end of the day I have to say 3. Our guest is picky because he has a chronic condition affecting his bowels, not because he doesn't eat normal foods. I think if your guest only eats beef because he has some kind of health issue, that is one thing. But being this picky as an adult needs to be the problem of the adult, not those around them. Don't justify it by serving him a special meal.


Also I view this as different than vegetarians or even keto. He just is picky, he doesn't have a health issue or allergies or a moral qualm.
Also I do have a health issue but the foods I avoid are somewhat complicated so I often eat before a wedding just in case. Someone else's wedding is not about my quirkly, voluntary diet

Definitely option 3. I’m an extremely picky eater and a vegetarian but this is your wedding. Spaghetti is a huge mess with kids especially at a wedding and it’s ridiculous for the caterer to cook one special meal out of no real necessity for one guest. If they don’t want to eat, they’ll eat on the way home or they’ll pick.

I get being a picky eater, but you are an adult suck it up for one meal!

I would not make special accommodations for one person, because I'm sure there are others who would also prefer red meat, but they were an adult and selected one of the options you are providing. And just think how others would feel if they see 1 person getting an option no one else gets, I sure as heck do not want to deal with that!

And I'm sorry, the "I have allergies" so treat me special just sends me spinning. If you are a picky eater then own it and stop making an excuse as to why you "can't" have something.

View Quoted Comment Agree with this. I hate when people fake allergies because it makes a lot of work for the staff. You don't have allergies, you are picky. Some people are picky as a result of a sensory or other issue, but most could completely control it by just acting like an adult and eating non-perfect food in restaurants/social settings

Absolutely option 3.

Entitlement abounds because others cater to this ridiculous, childish behavior.

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As someone with food allergies I have to say that it's not just a harmless lie when you say you have food allergies when in fact you don't. Because so many people lie about it (including you) and restaurants know people do this, it makes restaurant workers just that little bit, or even a lot less careful which can make people like me very sick or cost others their lives. Also, it is a lot of extra work for kitchen employees to make sure that your food doesn't come into contact with anything you are "allergic" to. It's NOT okay that you lie about this. And your accommodations because you are picky are VERY different than people who are allergic. Unless you've ever had your throat start closing because of something you've eaten you have NO business telling anyone that you have a food allergy.

Option #3. I have food allergies and I can't eat at a lot of weddings. I always eat before, bring a snack, and then just eat what/if I can. It's nice if people consider my needs but I know it's not realistic to expect it.

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Wow, I'm absolutely disgusted by this response. If only I had a "particular palate" instead of a life threatening food allergy, then I wouldn't have to carry an epi-pen with me 24/7 wherever I go and worry about my throat closing up if something goes wrong. Accommodations for people with food allergies are VERY different than the "categories of special eaters" that you listed. If you accidentally ingested a piece of salmon, you might have an unpleasant taste in your mouth for a few minutes. If I ingested a piece of salmon without medical intervention, I would literally die. Lying about having food allergies in order to get special treatment is absolutely terrible and seriously messed up.

Go with option #3. Being a picky eater is very different from having food allergies or intolerances. This guest can suck it up for one night and eat the sides if he doesn't want the entree.

View Quoted Comment Option 3. Done!

View Quoted Comment Agreed! Chose option 3. Thank you!

Prepare beef meatballs as usual in gravy, and if anyone asks, ask, Have you ever tried all vegetable protein and starch imitation meat? Shame we did not cook more!

View Quoted Comment Oh, there’s no need to be disgusted (and especially not by a public post made by a stranger to you). I said vegan and vegetarian food accommodations… not food allergies. But thx though!

Option 3- he needs to grow up or starve!