Picky Bridesmaid

Can she have her dress altered and have a modesty panel or a drape added or something? It might make it look slightly different but not enough to matter, and would make her more comfortable which is very important.

I think it's awful when a bride chooses the dress without input from the people who will be wearing it. They all need to be comfortable.

I would let her choose her own style in the same fabric / color.

Also, she is not picky. You are inconsiderate. How would you enjoy it if someone picked out a piece of clothing for you that was unflattering and uncomfortable and you had to wear it?

It can probably be altered to show less cleavage. Or just have them all do the same color

What does the dress look like?

I would suggest picking a color and letting them each choose their own style, or choose a color and pick several different options and let them pick from among the options.

Can she possible blend a bandeau with the dress to cover up some in the chest area?

Could you pick out one or two additional styles that look nice with the style you've already selected and let your BMs choose between the two or three styles? My BMs each wore a different styled dress in the same color, fabric, and length and it still looked very coordinated. Anyone who really wants to wear the original dress could still choose that style, but anyone who maybe likes the new option(s) could choose to wear those, and everyone would be happy.

Can you pick a color with multiple style option and let them all choose their own?

My MOH and 2 other bridesmaids were there to help pick a dress and they agreed on this one. The bridesmaid is my cousin who lives 6 hours away and can't really make it to pre-wedding events so it makes it a bit difficult.

I have 6 BM's total and 5/6 loved the dress

Maybe you could find one that shows a little less, but that everyone is comfortable in?

I wouldn't say that's picky! I wouldn't want my boobs hanging out either. Maybe you need to be a little more considerate of how your friend feels in a dress that makes her uncomfortable.

If you've already chosen the BM dresses (which it sounds like you have) - then like the people above I would ask her if shes okay with a modesty panel or piece of lace to help cover up the chest area? It isnt that boobielicious and would be an easy fix.

It doesn't matter how many other bridesmaids liked the dress, period. How would you like it if your guests all voted on your wedding dress?

You bridesmaid should definitely be able to make this dress a little less bust-y with some quick alterations! The seamstress can use a small piece of lace or extra fabric from the dress if it needs to be hemmed to add a modesty panel.

My mom had a modesty panel added to every single I dress I wore when I was growing up

I just want to make something clear here:

I did not say "you HAVE to wear this dress cos I picked it" . I had the my MOH and 2 BM's pick out the dress and I asked the rest of the girls what they thought so 1. I'm not forcing a dress onto anyone 2. I'm not being inconsiderate considering I'm on here looking for solutions instead of forcing this on her. 3. I asked the rest of the girls if we should keep looking and they all love it and think it's a great dress and do not want to change it and I like it as well. 4. My main issue is 5/6 bridesmaids love the dress and are excited about it but I have one that does not.

I liked the idea of adding the underneath part to make it more modest and feel she will be totally cool with that.

@Tania - where are you ordering the dress from? The dress shop may be able to offer suggestions for what can go underneath/around the neckline to fill it in. Also, depending on how her sizing works out (i.e. if she needs the bust taken in anyway), she may be able to pinch the neckline in a bit - it would still look like a v-neck, but not be so deep.

I'd definitely talk to her about what she's comfortable with before committing her to it, but I feel like those are some possible solutions.

It can probably be altered to show less cleavage

Definitely let your cousin know you're fine with her having hers altered to be more modest to see if that will ease her fears. Is this dress available at a dress shop near her where she could go try the style on for herself? Dresses can look completely different on two different women. She may be seeing how the dress fits a less busty girl and not realize that the neckline would sit in a different way on her (positively or negatively, but at least then she would be able to talk to the dress consultant about what a seamstress could do to make the dress for her and she would know her options).