Picking up family from airport?

While I can understand your disappointment about your parents not seeming to take interest in being there for things, as adults it’s ultimately up to them how involved they are and where they stay.

I agree with PP. You're allowed to feel disappointed, but it's their choice if they attend the rehearsal and RD, brunch, etc. Your parents are the ones who committed to picking them up, this is up to them to figure out. The last thing I'll be worried about the day before my wedding is how other people are getting around.

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Totally get that - I'm more concerned about the additional family flying in - it's not their fault that my parents are disorganized/chronically late. Did you arrange for someone to pick up OOT guests?

View Quoted Comment No. All of our OOT guests are arranging their own transportation. I’ve never had a bride and groom figure out my transportation when I’ve attended an OOT wedding.

Your guests are responsible for themselves.
I gave them a list of all the options (car rental, bus, taxi/Uber), but didn’t get involved in their transportation any more than that.

We have family coming from Europe & ton of people flying from out of state. I’m picking my family up, but they arrive a week before our wedding. For extended family or friends, we didn’t even think about picking them up, they are all adults who flew to NYC before & are perfectly capable of taking a taxi / Uber. I can understand if you live in a really small town where there are no taxis or Ubers.
I do think your mom’s plan about driving so much the day of & day before is ridiculous 😐 If it was my parents, I would tell them I really want / need them both at rehearsal dinner, as this is important. If they still don’t want to do it & decide to pick up cousins instead, you can’t make them of course. But either way you shouldn’t be stressing about who is picking people up the day before your wedding.

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Ditto this. I've flown into a few weddings and totally been responsible for my own transport. While it's nice if you can arrange it, especially for VIPs, its not necessary. We are planning to pick up my FH's aunt, only because she is disabled and can't drive.

It’s probably cheaper for them to rent a car then the gas spent for all the driving back and forth.

I'm flying in for my FSIL's wedding and unfortunately will be arriving during when RD will likely be. The bride and groom have had a couple of their friends offer to help pick up at the airport since there's a lot of family flying in so I'll likelt get picked up by one of them.

There was no dealing with picking family up from the airport for us, because we didn't even offer that as an option, lol. The only one that got picked up was my Dad, and he flew in a few days beforehand. Other than that, everyone rented a car. Is renting a car an option for your family? Honestly, their travel plans isn't something they should be bothering you with. You'll have enough going on the week of the wedding. Trust me, I had a really stress free year of planning, but those last four days were SO BAD!! Anyways, I would just express to your parents that y'all's family's travel plans aren't something that you can take on, and how much it would hurt you if they weren't involved / their for your wedding events. Other than that, it is in your parent's hands. They need to stop involving you in travel arrangements, and they need to figure out a way to be there the weekend of. BUT if they don't, then try not to take it too personally.....my mom thought half the stuff I did was silly, but that is just the way she is. As long as she is there for you ON THE DAY, then that is what is most important.

I set the tone right away that neither me, or FH were going to be picking anyone up at the airport, and no one was staying at our house (it just wouldn’t be fair). I would let your mom know how much it would mean to you for her to be in the pre wedding events, and suggest that she can either hire a car to pick these people up, or they can use Uber.

Most adults are able to arrange their own transportation. But as PPs said, it's up to your parents how they'd like to go about picking up family