Picking Bridesmaids

I had this problem because I have been planning for over a year. I would contact them and ask them if they still want to be in your bridal party. If they say yes, try to hang out with them and re- strengthen the relationship you once had. If they say no, that's easy, pick new people. It's your day and you should decide who is by your side. Hope it all works out!

Honestly, if they've fallen off the face of the earth, that's on them - not you

I wouldn’t worry about them. If they resurface and you feel compelled, maybe they can assist you unofficially on your big day. 🤷‍♀️

Are the great friends that you can’t see your day without? If so reach out and reconnect. If not then think about who you’d like to ask instead. I only had one person that I would have loved to be in my wedding but we had a falling out and now she’ll be a guest. Oh well! I tried and she couldn’t give an inch.

Maybe limit your wedding party to one or 2 attendants. Too many gets complicated and invites unnecessary drama. We were going to do 1 each but decided to bump it up to 2 each and now one of the guys is not sure if he can get off work. We went to his cousin's wedding in May and they had 12-13 EACH. It was crazy.

I would advice not to talk to people about being a bridesmaid when you are not engaged yet. A few reasons for this is the situation you are in right now. the people who you are close to now may not be the people you are close too when planning a wedding. These people may be hurt later on if you choose not to pick them anymore because you are no longer close. Traditionally when asking someone to be a bridesmaid you should give them all the information they need to know before saying yes or no some of this information should be the date, the location, price range of dress and a few other details. As for your question I would also advice not picking someone because you feel obligated to choose them if you are no longer close or talking I wouldn’t pick them anymore. My cousin and I grew up very close and ever since we were little we told each other we would be each other’s bridesmaid we are still somewhat close we will call each other a couple times a month and when I visit my family we always hang out but she is also the type to make drama easily when she doesn’t get her way I felt a little obligated to pick her so I did and started to regret it when she started to cause drama. it worked out at the end but she definitely made a few scenes through the wedding planning process. I would definitely think about who you want up there and talk to them if you still want them and if you don’t just tell them I know I asked you but I feel like we are no longer close. I would still love to involve you in other ways... hope this helps

I agree with PP that said it's ok to not have them if you don't have that kind of relationship with them anymore

I would ask the people, male or female, you cannot picture getting ready without. There’s no reason you have to have 2 or 5 Bridesmaids/MOH... one is okay.

Since you never "officially" asked them, you don't have to worry about them and can pick whomever you are closest to now!