Picking Bridesmaids

Hello!



I’m having a hard time picking bridesmaids. I have a couple of friends from school that we’ve kept in minimal touch with over the years. One of those friends picked me and a couple of other girl friends from school to be her bridesmaids. But the truth is we grew apart and aren’t as close as we were before so I was a little surprised when she asked me to be her bridesmaid.

Don’t get me wrong, I still have love for the girl but I’m worried she might have the expectation that I’ll pick her be my bridesmaid too. To make the pressure worse, I have a feeling my other school friends might ask us to be bridesmaids too, despite growing apart. And I don’t want to look like the only jerk who didn’t ask them to be my bridesmaids.

But in all honesty if none of this had happened, I definitely would NOT have picked any of them to be my bridesmaids simply because we’re not as close anymore and I’m closer to other girl friends now.

So is there some sort of unspoken rule that if you were in their bridal party, they should be in yours too? If not, how to I break it to my old friends?

Any advice is much appreciated when it comes ro picking bridesmaids!!