PICKING BRIDESMAIDS HEADACHE!!

How do you think your sisters will respond if you only ask some of them? Would they be OK with it, do you think?

Not at all it is your wedding and if you want your friends in the wedding that's your choice you should not be obligated to have your sisters . If it makes you feel better I have two brothers and my FH has two sisters and a brother and none of them are in our wedding party.

Don't ask anyone until 6-8 months before your wedding. At that point decide who you want. Not who other people want you to have. You want your nearest and dearest beside you

I have 3 sisters and only 1 was in my bridal party. I had 7 bridesmaids total. It really just depends on your relationships with each of them.

It is your wedding. You should choose who you want and who you are closest to. If that includes your closest friends and some of your sisters who you are closest to then so be it. Don't have regrets and don't let anyone guilt trip you. It's your day and its unreasonable imo to have 7 bridesmaids let alone accommodate 7 sisters as your bridal party with no close friends. The bigger the bridal party the more expenses you can expect to shell out for gifts and such.

I have brothers, we are all close. I think it is odd but that is just me.

It's your wedding.. choose who you want.. you still have a long time to decide on the bridal party.

Thank you all. I know I have time I am planning on proposing to my bridesmaids.. but after I mentioned it to my one sister her comment just really made me feel bad. I just really wanted to get some others opinion..

So what you feel is best for you. It's YOUR wedding, choose whoever you want! At the end of the day - it's what makes your day! Everyone will at least have to deal with it, but just tell your sisters (whatever ones you don't have) they should be lucky that they are even invited. It's YOUR wedding and it's what you want!

I only have 2 sisters and I never planned on having either of them in my bridal party until recently. I was only close with one of them (the youngest one), but felt weird having her and not the one closer in age to me so I just never planned on having either.

But we've gotten closer since we all moved out / no longer see each other all the time so I decided to just have both of them, plus 2 close friends.

My BFF is my MOH though, and my sisters are just bridesmaids.

However, your situation is different and I think you should have whoever you want.

Look at the Duggars. All those siblings were not in the bridal party!

You can choose who you want, it's your day you can pick 1 sister or all of them. Your sister was wrong about saying that you can't have friends in your bridal party without picking all your sisters. My mom has five sisters and only one was in her wedding. I have one sister and she is a bridesmaid, my best friend from high school is my MOH.

You do what you want and ask them in Feb.

OP I'm totally with you! lol I don't have nearly as many sisters as you have but I'm already feeling the pressure to automatically include them from other people. I think it annoys me that it's an automatic assumption that they'll be bridesmaids, just because they're your sisters. And that people will make you feel like you're a terrible sibling if God forbid you even think about not including them.

I love my sisters and we do chat probably every few days via GroupMe about mindless stuff, but in reality there are other people I'm closer to that I would call and talk about serious stuff that my sisters have no idea about and I would never tell them. My friends know the ups and downs of my relationship whereas my sisters would be hard pressed to probably even recall my fiancé's last name lol! So it's hard for me to justify picking a sister over a friend...but even though I feel that way it still isn't easy to actually do it.

At least you have a lot of time to try and figure this out!

When I decided on my bridesmaids I had some trouble deciding who to choose. I wanted to include my sister and my 3 nieces. I couldn't choose between my close cousin and best friend as my maid of honor so I chose for them both to be. My sister was then upset that she wasn't my maid of honor. However, at her wedding her best friend was her maid of honor not me so I didn't think she would mind. At this point, I had only met my FH sister once as she lives in Florida and we only go down there about once a year so I didn't ask her to be a bridesmaid. She was upset and felt left out. Also, I had 6 bridesmaids not including his sister and my FH only had 3 groomsmen. I hated having such an uneven number. It turned out to be more drama than I thought and now that I've had time to think about it I wish I would have waited longer to decide. Now, I've cut some of the bridesmaids out and my FH husband has become closer with some people so it working out better. My advice is just give it time because you don't know how you will feel in a few months.

Yeah, don't decide right now. Mull over it for about a year. I made the decision too quickly and wouldn't have one of the girls in my party anymore if I'd waited. She hasn't come to anything wedding related (not that I expect her to). Wait it out!

I don't think it's a big deal, OP. I don't have any sisters so I feel like it's like choosing from a bunch of friends. Are you actually close to all of them? I'd pick the ones you're closest to at the appropriate time to actually choose, which is next year. For what it's worth, neither of my brothers are in the BP but one of my brother's ex girlfriends is my MOH lol so there's no rule of having family in it at all.

OP I'm with ya except having the same situation with FSILs. I'm feeling the pressure to include them but honestly am not that close. Not the exact same since they are your blood sisters but its definitely a debacle.