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Samantha
Savvy November 2020

Picking a Wedding dress has me slowly sinking into madness.

Samantha, on April 14, 2020 at 11:09 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 4
Hi everyone!
I apologize in advance for this being a long post but I am in such a rut and don't know what to do. 😭

So I am getting married this November and I am still trying to find a wedding gown. Two years ago I said yes to the dress of my dreams but we left without it because we didn't even have a date or a venue at that point yet. Fast forward after deciding on a date and venue and theme and I just couldn't get that dress out of my head. Every dress I saw or tried on just didn't make me feel like that other dress. When I tried that dress on again I was in so much pain (I had broken and shattered my pelvis in the past and can't handle much weight on my hips....like I can't even wear jeans unless they are high waisted). It absolutely broke my heart and I talked myself out of wearing an aline dress co.pmetely. So I settled for a trumpet gown that I thought was beautiful but I needed to put drape sleeves on it. Once I got it in and tried it on I was in shock and filled with utter disappointment. The next time I tried it on I was in tears. It's a beautiful dress but it doesn't make me feel beautiful and it doesn't feel like "my dress". I have been going back and forth trying on more dresses and looking at different options. At this point I am trying to custom make a dress with Anomalies. The problem is that at this point with all of the opinions I have received (but not asked for) and the back and forth of the Silhouette of the dress and the top, I swear I am going to lose my mind. I honestly don't know what I want and am terrified that my anxiety is going to make me regret whatever decision (if I can make one) I make. I was so decisive in the beginning but just so many issues created this indecisive monster. Does anyone have any tips, help, advice to give? I know it's probably not that important and I was just going to deal with the dress I have now but my Mom is being so generous that she said she would kill me if I didn't love my dress so she is offering to get me another.

Thank you in advance 🙏

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Latest activity by Samantha, on April 16, 2020 at 9:12 AM
  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
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    I'm sorry that you are going through this. Is there anyway you can get that first dress you fell in love with 2 years ago and have some of the weight removed from your hips or redistributed elsewhere? It sounds like that is what is holding you up.

    I do think designing your own dress through Anomalie's might be a great option for you. You are the only person that knows exactly what you want. You could design a dress very similar to the one you fell in love with 2 years ago without all the weight around the hips that causes you the pain!

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  • Samantha
    Savvy November 2020
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    Hi Meghan!


    I have considered that but was told that taking out a lot of the dress materials may alter the look of the dress. I talked myself out of that dress which was so hard to do, so now when I look at it I have mixed feelings. I just got off the phone with my personal designer from Anomalie and everything went exceedingly well. I actually think I will be able to have the dress of my dreams. It's crazy because I was so sure I wanted off the shoulder sleeves but my fiancé is 6' 6" and it's not feasible for me to have those sleeves the exact way I want and be able to have mobility. I think that was a huge part in making me Coo coo for cocoa puffs with knowing what I want or not. I decided to go with a different neckline and for once I actually feel good about it. I jusy have to keep my designs a secret from my family otherwise they will give me opinions that make me question myself......again.
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  • Mrs.a
    Master October 2021
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    I would refrain from acting on anxiety. I did that and ordered a dress and immediately had dress regrets! Needless to say I called the next day and cancelled. 2 more dresses later and I found the one that lights me up ear to ear. Go with your gut and keep searching until you’ve found the one that looks And feels right!
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  • Samantha
    Savvy November 2020
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    Thanks Marisa. I was meaning that the anxiety I have causes indecisive thoughts so I am scared that no matter what I choose, my anxiety will inhibit be to be happy with my decision. I've decided to go ahead with Anomalie and finally feel good that I will love the dress.
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