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Amanda, on May 31, 2019 at 1:24 AM

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We've been engaged for a couple of months and just started hardcore venue shopping... due to my grad school schedule, we've been thinking about next September, 2020. However, we've recently been thinking about how eager we are to be married and start our life together and have been considering moving up our plans to December of this year, giving us about 6 months to plan. Pros? Cons? Our wedding will be in Colorado, so one major con I can think of is the unpredictability of weather for our out of state/out of country folks... September would be much better... but it's so very far away! I am having a hard time imagining doing this for the next 16 months!

I've never been one of those little girls who planned her wedding forever and knows everything she wants... so the whole process is kind of stressful for me... and the FH just wants to be married to me, that's all he knows. In my mind, I just want to marry my best friend while wearing a pretty dress and for my dad to walk me down the aisle and then to have a lot of dancing with my favorite people. What do people think? Can I throw that together in 6 months on a budget? Or should i stay the course and give myself the time to find bargains and ensure our out-of-the-area people can plan to be there... Is there any middle ground folks have found?

Thanks for your thoughts!

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Tina · on May 31, 2019 at 9:32 AM
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I planned a wedding in 4 months, so it can be done 😁. My budget was $5,000... I did almost
everything myself, though... made my own invitations and had cupcakes instead of a wedding cake.... Again, if you don’t plan to have an extravagant wedding, 6 months should be enough time.
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Anna · on May 31, 2019 at 9:46 AM
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We got engaged on Valentine's day. We set the date for next June because I consider the planning as part of the fun.
I just don't like to be stressed by rushing, and honestly, the time is flying by.
We found that alot of the vendors were completely booked for 2019 and 2020 was filling quickly.

I've gotten alot done and I feel like the rest of the planning will just fall into place.
We are also paying for everything ourselves, and need the time to save up and make payments as we go.

Good luck to you and congratulations on whatever you decide❤
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Becky · on May 31, 2019 at 11:00 AM
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We were engaged for 6 months and 1 day - it was completely doable, and we got our first choice on all of our vendors - but we lucked out to get them - it's just a matter of what you want. For the record, we were also in graduate programs, so that's workable too.
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Victorian Bride · on May 31, 2019 at 11:10 AM
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One of my cousins had a November wedding in North Carolina. They were engaged 6 months and it was beautiful. He proposed at their college graduation. You can definitely do it, but you may need assistance from family to make it easier.
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Rebecca · on June 1, 2019 at 12:13 PM
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I think it's a personal decision but definitely can be done I'm 6 months I did mine in 8 and honestly I had top-three months of doing nothing because there was nothing to do but when I was working on the wedding I did a lot in a short amount of time because I was so excited or budget was $12,000 and had a great day definitely doable good luck !
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Katherine · on June 1, 2019 at 12:36 PM
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We’re doing six months and it’s been fine! The first month is busy but after that it’s really not a bad pace.
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Katherine · on June 1, 2019 at 12:37 PM
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Also what helped us is that July is an off season for weddings in our state. December is an off season in many places, that’s definitely a plus in that direction!
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Jennifer · on June 1, 2019 at 2:16 PM
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I was in kind of a similar situation. I got engaged in September and planned to get married summer 2020 because of my grad school schedule. But it didn't take long for me to get really impatient. And I justified moving the date up by saying towards the end of school, I'll want to network with my new last name. So we decided to elope this summer and have a big reception summer 2020. Not having vendors or decorations/RSVPs/invitations/seating charts to coordinate made the planning easy, but the time has flown by.

I can definitely see the appeal of being patient and waiting until you can give wedding planning your full focus. I think it depends on what your priorities are. If a big, perfect wedding day with all of your out of town guests is your dream, then I'd wait (and it'll be here before you know it). But if you just really want the marriage to start already and don't mind compromising on some wedding stuff, then I think you could move up the date. Good luck!
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CDickman · on June 1, 2019 at 2:40 PM
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Pretty normal on here I have loved my long engagement.
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Lizbeth · on June 1, 2019 at 2:44 PM
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We decided in January that we wanted a July wedding, I have a month left and I am pulling it off but it's stressful
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Sexypoodle · on June 1, 2019 at 2:54 PM
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I think a short engagement is great. Ours is a bit too long and will end up being 1 year and 9 months... but it was more so because we’re doing a DW in Las Vegas. So I wanted to give our guests some time and also we excluded all of the scorching summer months. So we decided on Fall 2020.
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MrsJohansson · on June 1, 2019 at 6:26 PM
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Depends what you want for the big day. We have had three months to plan but we are having a private destination wedding.. just the two of us. We are not big on receiving attention from lots of people and we like things simple/stresd free.

Grad school is a big deal so maybe you guys might want to take more time. I am going to do my practicum but two months after we marry so our timeline works out.
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Cyndy · on June 3, 2019 at 4:29 PM
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I planned my entire wedding in about 11 weeks. It was a destination wedding in Florida for 55 people and I did a lot of it myself. I would say give yourself plenty of time to avoid stress.
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Nikki · on June 3, 2019 at 4:35 PM
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It would be totally up to you if you have the money or want something simple go for it but keep in mind December is holiday season vendors prices may be higher and they're holiday parties as well I got engaged November 2018 and most of my time went into researching I'm just now starting to book things and it's 16 months out my date is September 20,2020 also alot of good vendors may not be available for your date. Wedding can get expensive so that's why I was ok with the long engagement to pay as we go.
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ASMini914 · on June 3, 2019 at 4:38 PM
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I think 6 months is plenty of time, but only if you are very willing to be flexible on vendors, and if you have the time to commit to planning. We are planning on an 8 month timeline, it honestly hasn’t been bad and we could have done it in 6 months. That being said you have to be ok not getting your first choice for all of your vendors, and you have to be organized/prepared with the funds you will need.
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Nikki · on June 3, 2019 at 4:41 PM
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Mines was longer I love it you only get to enjoy being a fiancée once so why not experience it
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