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Picked Wedding Date that is someone's birthday

Mallory, on December 27, 2020 at 10:44 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 16

My fiance and I moved our wedding forward due to COVID (as many people have!). We did not realize until after we picked the date that it's my cousin's boyfriend's birthday and my first cousin's (who admittedly I am not that close to but am still inviting) birthday as well. I feel like there is no "perfect" date. It will always coincide with something. But do you think this is rude or wrong?


Latest activity by Melle, on December 28, 2020 at 10:08 AM
  • Hannah
    Master July 2019
    Hannah ·
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    This is definitely not rude or wrong. I would maybe reconsider if it was mom's birthday or something, but your distant cousin's boyfriend and other cousin? You're fine. If they don't like it, they don't have to come.
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  • Belle
    VIP August 2022
    Belle ·
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    It’s not rude. It’s not wrong either. I don’t see why people would even be upset about it.
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    No it's not rude or wrong at all
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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
    Lisa Online ·
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    I don't think it's rude at all! The only time I would maybe reconsider is if it were an immediate family member's birthday or anniversary or something. Otherwise, if you were to take all of your guests' schedules and important dates into account, you'd never find a date that worked for everyone. If they're upset about the date you chose, they don't have to attend.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    No this os not rude nor wrong. Do you.
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  • Alexa
    Dedicated October 2022
    Alexa ·
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    I don’t think it’s rude at all! If you were to avoid dates due to other people’s birthdays, anniversaries, etc you’d never find a date!
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
    Chrysta ·
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    I don’t find this rude at all. Like you said, there is always going to be something on every date. Plus, what a fun way to spend a birthday! You get to be around friends and family, and enjoy a great meal, drink cocktails, and party the night away... for free!! That sounds like a great birthday to me!
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  • SHY
    Master January 2022
    SHY ·
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    Nope! Not rude or wrong at all! We just found out our wedding date is my FH’s cousins birthday and no one is expecting us to move it.
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  • Katie
    Rockstar August 2020
    Katie ·
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    Hi Mallory! Not rude at all - I went my cousin’s wedding on my birthday and thought nothing of it😁 if you like, you could have the DJ lead Happy Birthday song or present a small cake to them as a surprise. ❤️
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Agree with the others- it’s definitely not rude or wrong! Our wedding dates will always fall on someone’s birthday, anniversary, etc.
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  • CountryBride
    VIP April 2022
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    Congrats on getting engaged, I don't think you are wrong my cousin wedding is on my middle daughters birthday the year 2 years after my daughter was born it doesn't bother me. I think you should continue to plan the wedding on your chosen date best wishes

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  • Victorian Bride
    Master February 2022
    Victorian Bride ·
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    Definitely not rude or wrong! I lost a bridesmaid because our rescheduled date was the WEEKEND of her 2 year olds birthday party. Not even his birthday. You cannot know every date that may interfere with a guest.
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    Master 0000
    Judith ·
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    It is fine . Disregard any birthdays or anniversaries unless they are big ones for which a large party involving booking rooms and caterer have already been booked. A 25th or 40th anniversary party for 200, for example. But birthdays are frequently observed in the days before or after, and avoiding 100 to 200 of them, as well as other weddings, graduations, baptisms or christenings, would make scheduling weddings impossible.
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  • Delown
    Just Said Yes September 2021
    Delown ·
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    If it is not someone you are really close to I would go ahead with the date. It’s almost impossible to plan around everyone’s events
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  • RaylaSan
    Expert February 2021
    RaylaSan ·
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    Ahaha, try having your wedding date land on Valentines Day, even though it wasn't planned that way, it just happened. I don't think there's anything wrong with having your wedding date land on that, lol, just be happy your wedding day isn't on some holiday... =_=

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  • Melle
    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Dude my wedding was the same date as my maid of honor's birthday. she didn't care.

    i mean i was shocked about it but it's what my husband picked because it was best for his schedule. so what we did was the day before [at rehearsal dinner] we got her a cake. and then everyone sang happy birthday to her. and then on our wedding day at the reception we had all our guests sing to her happy birthday and we printed on our stuff like at the bottom of the menu at every table, that it was her bday!

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