Phrasing ‘casual’ Attire

You shouldn't tell adults what to wear.

I've always heard that guests infer how formal the wedding is by how formal the invitations are.

But unless you're having a black-tie wedding, you don't tell adults how to dress.

You don't put attire on invitations, unless it's black tie. Guests will get the vibe from how formal (or informal) your wedding invites are. Adults know how to dress.

Your guests will also be clued in by the venue. I dress very differently for a wedding at a Fairmont than I do for a backyard BBQ type event. No offence meant to anyone, both types of reception are great.

The site and the invite itself should give most guests enough of a clue. I don't like suggested attire on invites themselves, but you can include it on your wedding website. (Try to flower it up, rather than straight just saying business casual or cocktail attire.)

So many people asked me how to dress lol I put dressy-casual on the website and I’m putting it in the details card in the invite too

I think this is the sort of thing that goes on the website. One of my venues doesn't allow heels, so I'm including that on our website. (and checking in with a few people via phone calls to make sure they see it)

I disagree about not putting attire recommendation on invites as I already know my family (love them lol) would all ask how to dress anyway. And personally, I like to have an idea about what to wear. No one wants to show up feeling out of place or uncomfortable.

It really depends on the vibe of your venue, just think of a better way to word it rather than the boring old "casual attire"

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Ok, but what is "dressy casual"? Do you think people will understand what you mean? To me, it's an oxymoron. On the website, I would say something like "the bridal party will be dressed in khaki's/dress shirts for men and skirts/pants and blouses for women".

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I get that you disagree, but it's an etiquette no no.

(That's the name of the board you're on)

View Quoted Comment I’ve had to tell about 50 people so far the dress code and all I’ve said is dressy-casual and they understood it perfectly. If you google dressy casual there’s plenty of examples and it’s even listed as a common dress code for country clubs and the like