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Just Said Yes December 2019

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Emma, on January 8, 2020 at 8:18 PM Posted in Family and Relationships 0 6

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Our photographer was amazing and already has gotten our photos back to us. One of my bridesmaids kept disappearing while we were getting ready so there really aren't any photos of her. She had her hair and makeup done before the photographer arrived, but we were going to stage those photos because that's what my photographer recommended. I had told everyone that from the beginning so they knew I wanted photos of them getting ready. I had purchased getting ready outfits for each girl so I basically wasted my money on hers. Because she kept disappearing there aren't any group shots of my girls and I in our robes because no one knew where she was. I also had purchased confetti to do a cool photo of us throwing confetti in the air, but by the time she came back it was time to get dressed so we didn't have time to take the photos I wanted. She also posted on Facebook about how her favorite part of the wedding was spending time with her husband. I am so not happy because I feel like she wasn't there for me when she really should have been and now I don't have some of the photos I really wanted. She was more concerned about spending the morning with her husband. Her husband is my husband's best friend so he was one of the groomsmen so it wasn't like he was alone all morning. I am just really angry, but my husband doesn't think it is a big deal. I haven't seen her since the wedding, but I feel like we spent all of this money on a photographer, but we didn't get some of the photos I wanted because of this bridesmaid.

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Latest activity by KAREN, on January 9, 2020 at 12:56 PM

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Kristen · on January 8, 2020 at 8:34 PM
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I am sorry but I would have taken pics without her. That was her bad for not being there. I am sorry that you did not get the pics you wanted. I say be upset but do not let this bring you down. Did you enjoy your wedding day? That is all that matters. Is she still your friend after this? If so, I would just let it go when you are ready to.
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Gen · on January 8, 2020 at 9:13 PM
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I’m sorry you feel abandoned by her like that, but I really don’t know why you’re fixating on these getting ready photos and on HER experience at your wedding. I’m sure those photos would’ve been cute but really, what are you going to do with a bunch of photos of you and your friends in matching pjs?

Again I’m sure it would’ve been nice to have, but did you get all the photos you wanted of you and your husband? Did YOU enjoy your wedding? That’s really what you should be focusing on rather than dwelling on this.
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Just Said Yes December 2019
Emma · on January 9, 2020 at 7:50 AM
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Yes, I had a great wedding and we got the photos I wanted of my husband and I. I guess I feel we paid for certain photos to be taken, but because she kept disappearing that I didn't get the photos that I wanted. If she had been honest with me that she was planning on hanging out with her husband most of the morning then I would have arranged the schedule differently.
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Gen · on January 9, 2020 at 9:03 AM
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I’m not sure why you didn’t just do the photos without her?
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Casey · on January 9, 2020 at 12:45 PM
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Your feelings are always valid but I think you need to feel them then let them go. I don't think it's fair to say you feel like you wasted money on her getting ready outfit, though.

Honestly, as Gen and Kristen said, you could've taken these photos anyway. Also, your photographer should've helped by getting everyone together to get pictures in time. If she couldn't corral everyone she should've at least told you "hey, we're out of time. We need to do these photos without her or not at all." That bit is on her.

As for her saying her favorite part was being with her husband, well.. Sorry, that's probably the favorite part for a lot of couples. You can't dictate how much she enjoys one thing over another. It's probably painful and I'm sorry, but that's how it is.
You chose her to stand with you as one of the people closest to you, is it worth losing your friendship over some photos? Let yourself feel your feelings then try to forgive and move forward.
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KAREN · on January 9, 2020 at 12:56 PM
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Kind of in agreement with the others; I get you wanted your friend there for you, but she chose to spend time with her husband. Yes, she reneged on her duties (which is crappy) but you could have told the photographer to take the pictures without her. Quite frankly, screw her.

You know, my sister made a big deal at her wedding when I said my favorite part was seeing my grandfather hold his first great-grandchild (he was really old at the time, and we didn't know how much longer we had left with him) and after getting married myself, I still stand by that statement! Yes, it is your wedding, but that's exactly it. It's YOUR wedding, not her wedding. People are always doing what they want and looking out for themselves. No one is going to care about your wedding as much as you and your partner (and by extension, your families). Most people told us they loved our wedding and when I looked online, many people ranted and raved more about the food than us, and that's OK!

And be grateful you have the pictures you do; there are no solo shots of me on my day, and very few of my husband and I. My photographer definitely dropped the ball there.
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