Photos and step parents

I haven't dealt with it personally but I would just take a picture with my parents and 1 with her and step dad..simple solution.

She does need to stfu. I don't know about step parents but FHs parents have been divorced since he was young (neither remarried) and mine are finalizing theirs and I've told both that they're going to stand next to each other and stand by their child and take some pictures and get over it. You should have A pic of you and your step parents with their spouse but it's about you, your husband and your family.... not the step parents.... unless they helped raise you or something...they shouldn't get offended

Right that's what I thought but man she is making out to be like I'm so disrespectful for even thinking about it

My cousin had this situation... so she did 2 pictures.. one with just her parents and the. One with all 4 (her parents and her step parents) even if you really don't want the picture with your step parents... it is a nice way to acknowledge them and avoid the drama, even if you really don't want the picture it is easily hid in a photo album or something later

Yes I mean my step mom has been around for 14 years she was a complete monster to me for about 12 of them I was considering doing one with just her and my

Dad but that doesn't feel right either she didn't raise me she's always treated me and my sister like we were less than I'm

Gonna have to rethink that one I like the idea of her my dad me my mom and step dad better

I see blended and split families on a pretty frequent basis. In pre-planning, I send my couples paperwork to help them work through family portraits. On the day of the wedding, I have a shot list on hand with everyone's names, relationship to the couple, and any notes that I need to remember. Sometimes those notes say to make sure so-and-so doesn't stand by so-and-so or there may be extra shots included to avoid family drama later. In your case, I would definitely do one with both sets together with your mom and step dad next to you and the other two next to the groom, and then, I would simply tell everyone to switch places that way you also have one with your dad and step mom standing next to you.

I encourage you to talk through your concerns with your photographer. She/he may not only be able to reassure you that they can work through it pretty seamlessly but also have some creative ideas you may not have considered.

What great advice Lindsay!!!

I have divorced and remarried parents. I think it depends on the nature of the relationships and how much animosity there is.

In my case, I don't plan on taking pictures with me, my mom, and my dad. They don't like each other and we all know that. So every time I looked at that picture, I would know everyone was extremely uncomfortable.

I'd rather look at pictures and know everyone was happy. I'll take pictures with the sides separately.

If your parents are amicable, then I would definitely do it. But if everyone is going to feel awkward and uncomfortable, it may not be worth it.

Tell SM that you want multi-generational pics (grandparents from each side with your parents).