Photography issues!

You need to message him and just ask him if he is still planning to do your wedding. You need to put your foot down and get him to respond to you. It may feel awkward but just let him know your have many other things to plan and if you need a new photographer he needs to tell you now. Its your wedding day and you cant waste time on people who aren't going to respond in a timely matter. I honestly would start asking for quotes from others if he doesn't respond to you about if hes still helping for your wedding. It sucks, but there's tons of stuff to plan and he cant keep stringing you along.

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In the last month, we have messaged him about 10 times or more, and every time its "I will get with you this week and pick a day to meet up" Then weeks go by and nothing. No messages. no answers. I have put my foot down but it seem like he's to busy or just doesn't want to bother with it. One time, we messaged him and he said to message his business page, we did, then it took like 2 week for him to answer with " I will get with you this week" But i feel the same, i have alot of stuff that still needs done. I feel like my window for our engagement photos is running out, i need them to send out our save the dates. Ugggh its just annoying.

Is this one of the stressors you want to put up with? Sounds like he doesnt want your business so I would move on. It may be more money but depending on where photography falls in your priority listing i think it is worth moving on.

I'm doing a "long distance" wedding and my photographer has been responding to me for over 6 months in under 24hrs. He even made sure to meet up with me when I went back in his area for awhile. If they want your business they will make time for you.

I'm sorry you're running into this. You'll hear this a lot on WW, but having friends as vendors ("friendors") can turn into a problem very easily, and is generally not recommended. (Not to say there aren't exceptions and awesome people out there who can do services for friends, it just opens a lot of issues.)

Does he do this sort of thing professionally, even if it's part-time? Or is it more of just a side hustle/hobby for him?

I do agree with the PP - if you're having a hard time getting ahold of him and getting him to work with you now, there's nothing to indicate to me that he'd be dependable for the wedding. When it comes to something like photography, you need a responsive, professional vendor.

At least it's far enough out where you can put your foot down with him, and hopefully secure another photographer if need be.

Honestly, when I was getting photography quotes, if someone didn't respond to me within a week, I took them off my list. Even during busy wedding season, most of the best photographers reached out to me within 24-48 hours max. Responsiveness and communication is everything.

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Oh no, you need to send him your last and final message saying,"thank you for offering to do our wedding but we are going to look elsewhere at this point". if hes being this way in the beginning imagine if you pay him and he doesn't show up to the wedding! If you haven't signed anything or put a deposit then I would suggest looking around for other photographers. Hell even if you gave a deposit take it as a lose and start looking elsewhere. I had a friend who's wedding photographer never sent her the pictures of her wedding! She only got maybe 150 after months of trying to contact her! Planning a wedding is a lot of stress, so your vendors shouldn't be causing more of it! If your wedding is September of 2020 you still have time. Try to get the save the dates out by December and then the actual invites but feb-march. Start messaging around for quotes. I'm sure you'll find someone perfect for your wedding.

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Your right! Thank you!

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Thank you, He does that as a side job. but your right. I'm starting to look for a new one.

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Your right!! Thank you for your advice. My MOH is heated at this situation because he did her wedding video, and he didn't do that to her at all. I'm starting to look for a new one!

That's really unfortunate. In all honesty, I would just start looking for a new one and not say anything. If he ended up finally reaching out to you, with a clear conscience you can explain that you didn't have time to play back and forth and if he was as serious as you were about getting this done, he would have contacted you already to set up a date or tell you he was no longer interested.

I would start looking for another photographer, sadly. These are important photos and if he gets upset, he has nobody to blame but himself

Honestly I would just look for someone new. Even if he eventually responds and says he's still interested, I would be worried that he would pull that same behavior again closer to the wedding

We've been lucky with our photographer (who is a friend of mine). She's been attentive from the beginning and always responds in a timely manner!

Move on. Find someone new. If he isnt answering you now, can you deal with him not answering or showing up for your wedding.
Id message him back and say we have now messaged you × amount of times and never get an answer. So we will assume you are no longer interested in working with us for our wedding.

Go with someone else. It will be less stressful later on.

I lined up an alternate Bridesmaid because one just couldn’t get why I needed done.

I just heard that she “doesn’t know what happened”. You stop speaking to me, but you have no idea what happened.

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Remember that we’re here for you.

Congratulations and 🍀‼️

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I have been there already too! But thank you!!!

Thank you ladies! I appreciate your advice, I really feel that your right. I have started looking for a new photography!