Photography for people that hate pictures

If you book a good photographer and talk to them about their style, they could be around during your whole reception and you might barely notice them. The formal family photos are typical shots that everyone includes, however, a lot of people have favorite photos from their wedding that were not staged photos like dancing with a little niece or laughing at a joke or something. If you just don't want pictures, then you could simply hire a photographer to come take formal shots after your ceremony then leave. But if you can find a photographer that can be discreet and do minimal staging and generally stay out of your way, I would do that instead of not including a photographer into your day.

I'd say the most important thing is to find a photographer who makes you feel comfortable. Then, think about the kinds of photos you'd like to have 5 - 10 years down the road. Are they family portraits? Candid moments getting ready, walking down the aisle, dancing with friends? That'll give you guidance on how long you need a photographer to be there for. You may end up wanting one who only comes right before or after the ceremony to take some portraits and then leave, or you may want them slipping in and out of the background all night capturing some of the little moments you'll want to hold on to. I'll just say, a good photographer will be able to put you [mostly] at ease in front of the camera, so it's not as awkward as you might think!

ETA you'll be able to tell the photographer in advance what you shots you want, so if you don't want to waste time on a lot of portraits (for example) just make sure they're on the same page with you when you set your timeline. You hire and direct them, so that is something totally in your control!

Definitely talk to your photographer. Most understand being camera shy and will ask for a list of photos you want. I'd search on Pinterest or Google for wedding photos and create a Google Docs shared folder with the ones you picked out (or just make a list, if you don't want to be complicated like me lol).

I'd also tell your photographer that you would prefer candid (in the moment, not staged, not expected to be photographed) style. They'll focus more on capturing you and your guests without you even realizing they're there. I personally think the best photos are candid because I can't stage a photo without looking awkward. You also get genuine emotion.

Must have shots that are staged:
- Bride and Groom
- Bride w/ family
- Groom w/ family
- Bride w/ Bridal Party
- Groom with Groomsmen
- Wedding party and Bride and Groom

Must haves that are candid:
- Wedding ceremony
- The kiss
- Reception

We are the same
Seriously, been together for five years and we have a hand ful of photos together
I have a photographer for three hours. I wanted the ceremony post ceremony (which was the most important thing for me ) and alittle of the reception.
Make sure your photographer knows what's important to YOU.
my family seems to think that there will only be family shots . Maybe two but I want photos of FH and myself for once

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I definitely needed this list of must have shots! I sat down yesterday to write it and quickly got distracted.

We booked a pretty pricey photographer, but one that takes very natural and candid shots. His "smile" for pictures is terrible lol but his real smile is amazing. I wanted a photographer that can catch us for who we are throughout the day. If budgeting is not the problem, just really find a photographer that fits your certain style.