Photographer Issue, Post-Wedding - MOB so upset

I know it cant bring back the wedding. Maybe u both can go in to take some pics together. Like a studio and do it. U can put your grown on and she can have what she had on as well. Then yall can take some with a change of clothes. Maybe that can cheer her up a lil.

It doesn't sound like there is much you can do about it now that the wedding is done...maybe he can edit and crop a group photo that has you and your mom standing next to each other to become a photo of just you and her?

That is a good lesson learned for the rest of us, make sure that the photog KNOWS to get several shots with certain people/grouping through out the night

I don't have any thoughts on how to comfort her, nor has my wedding happened yet, but at my shower I didn't get any solo photos with my mom (and she hosted the event). I was super upset (more so than she was). We didn't understand that out of thirty people with cameras, how no one stopped us and asked for a photo.

Truth is, the day is busy and no one thinks about these things. Your photographer should have been the one in charge saying this person and this person need a photo, etc. Did you make a list of shots you wanted ahead of time?

Aww that sucks. Maybe go out to a nice dinner and have someone with a decent camera take pics? I know it's not the same..

Lesson learned to future brides-- make a list of all the pics you want. Your photographer won't know all the family members, so assign someone to chase the people down.

I made a list of larger groupings, but I didn't make a list of the "obvious" shots like me/husband, me/MOH, me/mom, etc. She took photos of my husband and his dad, so I don't know why the other shots didn't happen. I'm not totally blaming her of course, someone should have realized that the shots never happened. I was in such a daze that day that it never occurred to me unfortunately.

So sorry, this is why I made a list of photos that we wanted to give to the photographer...

Sorry to hear this! Like others have suggested, maybe do a little photo shoot with just her? Wedding dress and all?

What I am doing to avoid this: I am giving my photographer and everyone else involved in pics a list of shots wanted and timeline for them so everyone know where to be at what time.

The photos that you received from your photographer, did you get al lthe raw images or just the processed ones? i want to say sometimes photographers (correct me if i'm wrong) might just give you the processed ones and theres still 500+ raw images that you havent seen yet.

Maybe you can hire the photographer again to do a lifestyle shoot of just you and your family so that you can sstill have some great pro shots of you and your mom/ you and your dad, etc. Or you could always ask the photographer if there are any shots that he/she didn't give you that contained those particular shots you are looking for. If you tell them your situation, they might be able to find something.

The same thing happened to me. My parents are dead, so my sister and her husband are closest to me - and there are no pictures of me, her, her husband, my husband, and her nephew (in essence, my family). And also no formal pictures of just the bridesmaids.

I still get sad, but I know that I have plenty of other opportunities to get pictures of the 5 of us. It just sucked that we don't have it then.

I personally wouldn't do another photo shoot - it's not the same to me. It's a reenactment, not the real thing. To me, it's not important that I got a picture with all of us in our wedding finery, it's that we got a picture then, in the moment.

Most pro photographers will make clients give them a list of family groupings so that they can make sure they get them all... did yours not do this? Or did things get crazy and you gave the ok to skip it? I don't see why the pic of you, mom and dad won't suffice, unless maybe her and dad are no longer together?

I assist a wedding photographer, and I've seen a lot of family photo shoots get crazy. I plan to hand out a list of groupings to all parties involved, so everyone knows when and where they need to be, and are not constantly trying to ask me about it while I'm in the middle of taking another picture. I might even have the list printed on the back of my ceremony programs, so everyone knows, after the ceremony, this is what we're doing.

RAW is just the format, they are not different pictures, they are basically just larger and easier to edit. Then after editing we turn them into JPEGS so they are easier to fit on your drive/computer.

Yeah, when me and my boss work weddings, if something 'obvious' is not on the list, we will still try to get it in, however if you're tired of taking pics and want to go to cocktails, we won't force it. Good lesson though, just because it's not high on the bride's priority list doesn't mean it's not important to mom or other people. You can ask the photog, maybe he/she does have some random out of focus shot of mom and you that they didn't include in your collection because it was dark or blurry or something, it's a long shot but doesn't hurt to ask.

I don't think these are as obvious as you may think- one of my best friends who had trouble with in laws purposely didn't want any photos with them, so you really can't expect a photographer to understand true family dynamics. If your parents are divorced this makes sense; but it seems overwhelming to me, personally to take a picture with each of my family members, each of my bridesmaids. Good warning tho to future brides to consider this!!

We had a similar problem after we got our photos back that there were no photos of DH and I with just my parents. My mom really wanted one like that. She talked to our photographer and she did some editing and manage to create that photo and you would never know that photo hadn't been taken on our wedding date. Definitely talk to your photographer and see if she can do some editing to create those photos that weren't taken.

Reach out to your guests and see if they have any of the pics you want that the photographer missed.

Nay, that's a good idea. Ali, I'm so sorry for you. I'd be bummed too. Which is precisely why I created a list of all required shots to give to the photographer with a copy of the list to my MOH. I'm gonna make sure we check them off too. Thanks for sharing your experience. And again, sorry this happened to you. Hope you can find a good resolution.

I would contact your photographer. Perhaps in an off chance they didn't give you every single one (only the best) and there is something in there. It's a long shot but it's worth asking since it means so much to your family. Good luck :/