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Devoted July 2019

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Futuremrs, on May 24, 2019 at 7:33 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 13

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I found this great photographer who is willing to do our small wedding for a price we can justify. We've done most of our communicating via email, but did have a great chat on the phone and I felt very comfortable with her. (Our 10-minute conversation lasted almost an hour. I never talk that long on the phone!) This past Saturday, she emailed the answers to a couple of questions I'd had and asked if she could send a contract. It was during our engagement party, so I replied to her on Sunday saying yes, please. And I haven't heard from her since. I know it's been less than a week and I'm probably being unreasonable, but I want to get this locked in place. I have other options, but I have preferred the interaction I've had with this one. It's just never taken this long for her to respond. How long should I give her before contacting her again?

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Bride2020 · on May 24, 2019 at 7:44 AM
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Less than a week is fine, I wouldn’t consider it disappearing! If you’re really worried you could re email her and just politely ask if she got a chance to send it over, but i’d wait it out a little longer.
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Danielle · on May 24, 2019 at 7:49 AM
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I'd wait a full week, then send her a message saying something like "Hey, I didn't receive the contract and just want to make sure it didn't get lost. Have you had a chance to send it?"
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Mrsblair · on May 24, 2019 at 7:54 AM
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I would wait until after the holiday weekend and give her a chance to respond because she could be super busy with that. Maybe shoot her an email Wednesday?
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Futuremrs · on May 24, 2019 at 7:56 AM
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I know you're right. Life happens and this is only a part-time thing for her, so she's got a lot of stuff on her plate. I'm just feeling antsy. Partly because I have a couple of others on the side. I hate keeping them hanging, but I don't want to cut them loose until I have a contract. I'll give it a few more days and reach out to her if I need to.
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Futuremrs · on May 24, 2019 at 7:57 AM
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That's great wording. I'll keep it in mind if I need to reach out!
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Bride2020 · on May 24, 2019 at 8:00 AM
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Is your wedding date really this July or is that an error? If so then I think you have the right to be a bit antsy, sorry I thought it said next July. I’d agree with PP, message her tuesday after the holiday. The other photographers probably wont get back to you until then anyway if you were to reach out.
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Futuremrs · on May 24, 2019 at 8:00 AM
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I keep forgetting that there is a major national holiday this weekend (bride brain?). Yeah. Maybe I'll wait until the weekend is over before I reach out.
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Chariece & Sterling · on May 24, 2019 at 8:05 AM
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Yes I definitely would give her a chance to respond back. If you had such a great chat with her you probally concluded that she was the person you wanted to take your photos. Keep in mind that it is prom/graduation and the start of wedding season therefore she might be very busy.
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Futuremrs · on May 24, 2019 at 8:07 AM
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It really is this July. At this time in 57 days, I will be doing my hair and makeup and eating something so I don't pass out in the heat! Lol! You're right about the others not responding over the weekend either. I'm so focused on wedding, I keep forgetting that there is a major national holiday this weekend.
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Bride2020 · on May 24, 2019 at 8:12 AM
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Thanks so exciting!! Yeah i wouldnt worry at all, a photographer who spent an hour on the phone with you I’m sure feels pretty locked in with you, just message her Tuesday and enjoy your weekend girl!
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CDickman · on May 24, 2019 at 8:17 AM
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I would not worry. At then same time after holiday weekend I would not met it lapse to long cause a lot of photographers are going to be booked if not now then soon.
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Victoria · on May 24, 2019 at 9:08 AM
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I would probably try to call her after this weekend. If your original email back to her for some reason got sent to spam, it's possible your follow-up will as well. In the meantime I wouldn't worry too much about it. It's busy time for wedding vendors and she may be swamped with events and editing.
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FutureStephD · on May 24, 2019 at 9:45 AM
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I have mixed feelings about this... yes, it's a major holiday, and wedding season, she's probably busy. Buttttttt our photographer was like this and I ended up being ignored up until the wedding, I had to send a stern text to get him to respond and I was so relieved when he actually showed up to our wedding. Trust your gut. If you think she's just busy and would be great the day of then go for it, if you have other options and would rather pursue those, do that. Perhaps you can set communications expectations with her - mine seemed appalled that a bride would want to email questions or talk more than two weeks before the wedding about timeline and must have shots....
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