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Devoted September 2021

Photographer conundrum--go over budget or keep searching?

Jay, on October 6, 2020 at 7:58 PM Posted in Planning 1 21

I knew choosing a photographer would be tough—but I need help! I realize no one can help with my specific situation, so I'd love to know if you ran into similar problems and how you decided! How bad is it to skip an engagement shoot & work with your photographer for the first time day of? Did you regret not having a second shooter (especially if you had around 150 guests and a Catholic wedding)?


We’ve had a huge struggle finding a photographer for fall 2021. Our original ideals were: 8+ hours, 2 photogs, engagement session, great candids (of both guests & the couple), & a positive feeling about the lead photographer. We’ve reached out to 13 at this point, and so many have been booked on our date, ended up being **extremely** expensive, or haven’t responded at all.


We’ve finally, finally, found three good options, but it's looking like we will need to cut back on something, up our budget, or keep searching.


TL;DR

  • - Photog 1: within budget & the least amount of stress due to the 10 hours & 2 photogs—but we don’t love all the photos.
  • - Photog 2: we love all the photos, but we may end up way over budget if we can’t decide what to go without.
  • - Photog 3: similar pricing to photog 2 (but the package details work out better for us); photos are consistently good with good candids.
  • - Option 4: keep searching!


Photog 1:

  • - Within budget (adding an engagement session will bring us right to our budget).
  • - Up to 10 hours, 2 photographers included.
  • - Con: The photos are generally good but we don’t love the entirety of the galleries we were sent. However, their great photos are just that!


Photog 2:

  • - Pricing is a la carte, starting at 6 hours. A second photographer, 8 hours, & an engagement session would be about $2k over what we hoped to spend.
  • - She said we could skip a second photographer if we take most formal portraits (party & family) before the ceremony, but that might be tricky to work out the timing of with our specific situation (we have a different ceremony location & limited access to the reception venue before our rental time).
  • - We could skip the engagement shoot, but I really wanted one to meet the photographer/practice having photos taken.
  • - Major pro: We love her photos. The formal portraits, the candids, the indoor photos are all amazing throughout every gallery she sent. The colors & editing style are exactly what I want. And she has some super inventive framing & light use, which I love.


Photog 3:

  • - Similar cost to Photog 2. Most budget-friendly option would be the base package.
  • - We would likely choose her second-tier package, which is nearly $1k over but is 7 hours, 1 photog, an engagement session, and some prints. We may still need an 8th hour.
  • - She prefers shooting solo, so I feel a little better about skipping a second shooter with her...but technically the same issue applies of when we can access the venue for pre-ceremony portraits, and so we may need one in the end, which would bump us $2k over.
  • - Pro: The full galleries look good, and have really good colors & editing. Lots of great candids!


Or, the fourth option—keep searching, which I don't really want to do!

21 Comments

Latest activity by Bridget, on October 8, 2020 at 12:39 PM
  • M
    Super October 2022
    Michele ·
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    At the end of the day, after the flowers die and the cake is eaten, your pictures are really all you have to remember the day so it's a splurge item for many. Is there something else in your budget that's not important to you that you are willing to cut to make room for the option 2 photographer without having any regrets?
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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Totally agree with Michele. Photographs will be one of the only lasting items from your wedding, and you will enjoy them for many many years to come. This is an area I (personally) wouldn’t skimp on. I would do option 2. You will have 2 shooters so you won’t miss important photos and won’t have to feel rushed. Plus you love all her work, which means you will likely love your photos. I would much rather spend more on photos I love than save money and end up with photos that are just ok.
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  • Kevin
    Super October 2021
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    So we were in the same spot as you. We had to postpone our wedding to next year so I canT say the final outcome yet. But we ended up with the more expensive photographer and ended up at 1500 over budget. We loved her photos and she caked with a second photographer and an album and an engagement shoot. We decided to do this because I’m taking with my FH cousin, best man, and a co worker they went cheap on their pics and it was their biggest wedding regret and like other said the one thing to remember this day is the pics. We decided we would regret not having the best photo experience we could ca the budget. You’ll get over the money. In ten years you won’t even remember how much you were over budget yea its a lot of money but in long run it’s a lifetime of being happy with the physical memories of your happiest day rather than a thousand dollars. That was our thought process hope it helped!
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  • Lisa
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    I agree with Michele 100%. Any way you can move things around in your budget to make it work?
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  • Michelle
    Master April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    Michele is correct. There certain things you can skimp by t that’s not one of them. I’m thinking you’ll regret not paying extra for a great photographer!
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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
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    How important is photography to you two? Can you cut back on something else?
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  • J
    Devoted September 2021
    Jay ·
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    I didn't mention this above, but this is already a splurge area for us--our photog budget was already above average for our area (New England) so now we're WELL above, haha. But, I agree, and I'm sure I can find something else to cut back on (like flowers--I really don't care about those).

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    Jay ·
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    I agree! Thank you! I think we're still torn on second shooter or engagement session, but we may revisit those options with the photographer for our specific situation.

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    Jay ·
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    This is so true, thank you! I get caught up in the current time & forget to think about the future--I may remember the number, but it will be just that, and ultimately won't matter. And it's very helpful to know there's someone else who went pretty far over budget, haha.

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    Jay ·
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    I didn't mention this above, but this is already a splurge area for us--our photog budget was already above average for our area (New England) so now we're WELL above, haha. But I think you're right. Photography is my top priority and I'm optimistic I'll end up spending less somewhere else, either naturally or by trying to!

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    Jay ·
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    I agree! I feel like we've already tried to skimp in other areas (for example, no favors but we're considering a photo booth, so maybe now we'll ditch that idea) but I also think we overbudgeted in areas like flowers and decor and I'm hopeful it will all sort of even out xD

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    Jay ·
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    Very important! Haha. It's my top priority which is why how long this is taking us, and that my original top choices were all already booked, is making this so tough! We're trying to save the "extras" (favors, decor) until the end so we can decide to skip or skimp on those items if needed.

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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    If I HAD to choose between cutting the second shooter or the engagement photo session, I would definitely cut the second shooter. The engagement session provides you a trial run with your photographer & it allows you to get used to being in front of a camera together. I didn’t think it would be a big deal, but I was surprised at how awkward a professional photo shoot can be and how long it took for us to kind of get used to being in front of the camera. And let me tell you, it definitely showed in the photos that were taken early on during the shoot! It’s so much better to get all that out of the way during your engagement shoot, instead of risk feeling and looking awkward in your actual wedding photos! It also gives you a chance to see actual examples of her work with the two of you. You can look over your engagement photos and make sure they are the type/quality of photos you are looking for for your wedding. If they aren’t, you have a chance to correct it with her (ie, change the vibe, editing, etc.). Plus, you can look through the engagement photos and see what you love and hate! For example, if there is a certain pose you love, you can make sure she incorporates it for your wedding photos. Or, if there is a certain pose you think looks awkward, she can make sure she doesn’t do that one again. Or if hair or make up looks odd in photos (because it is notorious for looking different on camera versus in person) you now have a chance to correct it before the wedding. Plus, working with the photographer before the wedding just makes it more comfortable when you work with them the second time. And feeling comfortable on your wedding day is super important!
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    Jay ·
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    This is literally everything I was thinking about for why I wanted to do an engagement shoot, so thank you! It's so helpful to hear someone else say all this and make me feel like I'm on the right track. I hadn't thought about using it to identify poses we love or hate, and that's a great point--the last photos I took posed were my senior portraits in high school, and half of those ended up looking very awkward, but of course I didn't know they would at the time.

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  • Chrysta
    Master November 2022
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    Absolutely! I had honestly never even thought about engagement photos serving so many important functions until we actually took them!
    This is why I love WW so much – we can learn from other people’s trial & errors!
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    While the points about an engagement trial run are completely valid, I’m on the other side of the fence here. If I had to cut somewhere, I’d skip the engagement photos and include the second shooter. During first looks and the ceremony there are so many quick moments where it is so nice to have captured that second angle! The most commonly referenced one is capturing the bride and the groom’s reactions as the bride steps into view at the beginning of the aisle. It is possible to do with one photog but it’s more magic with two! It’s also lovely to have photos of bride and groom’s reactions during vows. Etc.


    You can gather a lot from meeting with the photographer in regards to if you’ll get along together. If you’re strictly looking to test out poses, you could always upgrade your photo package a little later after you’ve been able to save for it or you can book a less expensive photographer for the engagement photos. Remember, with the engagement photos often the few advertised with wedding photographers is JUST the shooting fee. You’ll need to pay more for any copies of photos. With Airbnb for example in some cities you can book an hour photo shoot and a certain amount of digital photos for a couple hundred dollars.
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    Personally, I think a 2nd shooter is more important than an engagement shoot. We didn't do an engagement shoot, but we chose a photographer who we were comfortable with, and the day of went perfectly. The 2nd shooter was great for getting multiple angles of events, such as the first look and walking down the aisle. Plus, we got so many great group shots at the reception of people since both of them were walking around and taking candids/posed shots.
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  • Kimberly
    Expert October 2019
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    I'm a big believer in spending money where it's important to you. For me, that was always photos. I didn't want to set a budget bc I knew these would be our memories for years to come and that was important to me. If I had to cut back someplace else, I was fine with that. We ultimately got a great photo/video package without paying and arm and a leg.
    At the end of the day, your invitations will end up in the garbage (except for the 1 you keep), favors will get left behind, and centerpieces you can make yourself. If the photos are an important aspect to you, I'd say go with the photographer you love and cut somewhere else.
    *Side note: we didn't do sn engagement session, we weren't really into it. We did have 2 shooters and I'm so happy we did.
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  • Allison
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    For me personally, I would spend the extra money on the photography portion of your wedding. The photos are what you and your fiance will treasure forever. It's what you share with your loved ones, future kids, the things you post around your home, the future birthday posts for guests, etc. If you can adjust the budget to spend the money where you want it, and see where you could save.

    For me, I am a lot more comfortable spending less on decor, food, gifts, invites, etc. People always say guests remember the food, but honestly, if you feed them something decent then they will be happy. My two no compromises are the DJ and the Photographer, because DJ will mean a full night during, and a photographer is what will bring us joy long after.

    Go with your gut and trust what you want.

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  • Yasmine
    Master October 2020
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    Then I would get the photographer that I want and cut elsewhere!
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