Photographer and copyrights

Our photograher wants the right to publish photos of us in anyway he wants. I feel like bc I’m paying him to take photos of me, he shouldn’t be able to use them however he wishes, yet restrict me from using them however I wish. It just doesn’t seem fair and it’s an invasion of privacy. Anyone here successful get their privacy rights back? Also, posting saying it’s industry standard, etc is not helpful. Just bc it’s something imposed by the photographer industry doesn’t make it something I agree with.