So my college roommate and I were talking about how since she’s been married she’s lost a lot of friends. She mentioned that people change and it ends up being some of the people you least expected.
Which brings me to my cousin who is like my best friend. She and I have been close for a very long time. Our lives always parallel one another. Without discussing things - our lives are always in sync - for example when I got a new car so did she. So, in April of last year my fiancé proposed to me, she was excited because she knew that within time she would be next. Out of respect for her and other close family/friends, I made sure she was one of the first people to know that I was engaged before I announced it on social media. I was a little heartbroken to find out that she and I spoke for weeks and she didn’t mention that she was engaged. I found out through a mutual friend who saw it on social media that she was engaged who too was deeply upset that it was such a secret or needed to hit social media on New Year’s Day for a blog post.
I congratulated her a month later when I found out, but I must be honest I felt a little sour since she did not give me the same respect that I gave her. I didn’t want to be a downer so I never really expressed how I felt. She mentioned that her grandma is upset with her because she found out through social media and that did not make me feel better, but I told her I agreed since I made the effort to make sure she were first to know before social media.
For the first time I feel like marriage is changing her... I don’t know if she’s upset that she isn’t my maid of honor (I reserved that spot for my sisters), but I did make sure she was in the wedding. Now a part of me is reconsidering - partially because I might not even be in her wedding.
Am I wrong for feeling the way that I do? How do I politely bring it up without making it turn into something that could possibly cause us to not speak anymore.
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