Perspective needed

Honestly, and this is going to be harsh, public health and safety is paramount over anyone's wedding. In fact, I'm a professional in the wedding industry, and I've just advised all my brides and grooms to cancel or postpone their March and April weddings. We're about 10-14 days behind Italy when it comes to the virus and their initial casual feelings about the virus have now lead to a country-wide lockdown and hundreds of deaths. Contact between people (even those feeling totally fine) can spread the virus on to people who are at risk (immunocompromised in some way) super quickly, and in order to give medical professionals an opportunity to get a handle on things, staying home and not going to any non-essential appointments or outings is pertinent. They're closing down restaurants, bars, and theaters, and people get much closer (hugging, celebrating, sitting in aisles/pews) to each other at weddings than they do at those places.

Sorry about how things have turned out for you individually here--it's definitely been frustrating for brides and grooms getting married anytime soon. Unfortunately, I'd strongly suggest postponing. I'm sending good thoughts your way!! Your feelings are totally valid and all of this is scary and frustrating.

Have you considered postponing? Obviously it's important to your FH that his family is there. It's not fair to ask your guests to choose between their health or your wedding.

I agree with PP's, I would get on the phone with your vendors ASAP and work on rescheduling for a later date.