Personal Attendants

Just have them as BM's. You don't need to be equal on each side.

PA are a joke and humiliating IMO. Second best on display.

Personal attendants are not a thing. If you want them in the wedding, make them bridesmaids. It's ok to have uneven sides. Otherwise they can be guests. Guests can host showers, attend bachelorette parties, and offer ideas for the wedding.

I have never heard of attendants but I don't see why the bridal party has to be equal. I would just make them bridesmaids.

I'd agree...I'd make them BM's. FH and I have uneven numbers and it doesn't bother us in the slightest.

Yuck, skip the "personal attendants" and have them as bridesmaids, sides don't need to be even.

Don't make them #glittercoveredweddingslaves, even though they're offering. Either have them as bridesmaids or have them as guests; they can still do things for you if they choose. Your bridal party doesn't have to be equal, so if you want them to be bridesmaids, ask them!

"Personal attendant" sounds like "you are my bitch for the day". Its weird to me. I would make them BMs and just have them walk in together. You and FH don't have to have the same number.

They are called lackys. Don't do it.

I agree with PPs, personal attendants sounds really strange. We have uneven parties (4 BMs, 3 GMs) and it's fine. Either make them BMs, or let them be guests. There are several girls I am close with who offered to help with wedding events, even though they aren't BMs. I think it is awesome they want to be involved, and they haven't given me any pressure to make them BMs.

Never heard of a personal attendant but it sounds degrading. If you really don't want to have uneven numbers then thank them for their generous offer but let them know they'll be welcomed as guests. Or just have them as BMs.

I have heard of people having them before. I don't like the title sounds like you are making them your servant or something. You don't need to include everyone in the BP, they can still participate in throwing the shower and bachelorette party as guests.

I say have them as BMs. Our bridal party is not even - FH has 4 groomsmen, but I am having 5 BMs (longtime friend, 3 sisters, and a cousin we are very close to). At the end of the ceremony and for the bridal party intro, I will just have one very lucky groomsman escort 2 lovely BMs

Agreed, ladies. I was really already on the fence about it. I'm not the kind of person to ask others for help so I would have felt bad knowing they were helping me all day and not in the bridal party.

Asking them to be bridesmaids today! Thanks all

Awesome! Good luck! :o)

I have 4 BMs & FH has 6 GMs on his side.