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Summer, on May 21, 2019 at 3:34 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 10
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Does any know the ratio of # of people who RSVP yes to # of people who actually show? One of my friends was telling me that she had 80 RSVP that they would be there and only 20 showed. I had some last minute RSVP come back and I am trying to figure out if I should order more candy bags or leave it where it is (we are short by 8 now).

Thank you ahead of time,

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  • MAMW
    Super August 2013
    MAMW ·

    My wedding had 100% attendance. I think it's always safest to assume everyone will come and risk losing out on some money than to try to factor in people who may not attend because you really can't predict that.

  • Summerbride77
    VIP July 2019
    Summerbride77 ·
    It's best to plan the everyone who rsvp’d yes Will show up. Better to have too much than too little.
  • Jessica
    VIP June 2020
    Jessica ·

    Wow that's a lot. I think it depends on your crowd really. I'm expecting everyone to come but I'm sure some wont show. I don't think 8 bags short is a huge deal. Some people probably wont even take any candy to go.

  • Summer
    Dedicated June 2019
    Summer ·

    Thank you, everyone, for your advice!

  • FutureMrsD
    Legend July 2019
    FutureMrsD ·

    60 people not showing out of 80 saying "yes" is pretty rare, I think. We haven't had our wedding yet, but from what I've heard there are between 2-10 no shows for most weddings. For my shower, we had two "no shows". We had a casual graduation party and had around 20 no shows but that was a more casual event.

  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
    Chandra Online ·
    We had 54 Yes responses and as far as I know, 50 attendees.
    Theres no exact science to figure out how many people will actually show up. Plan for everybody as much as it might sting to feel like you've wasted money.
  • J
    Master 0000
    Judith Online ·
    There is no predictable pattern of no shows . Most weddings I have been in have not had any no shows. But one had 25 of 75, a full third. No pattern, some friends, some family, some his, some hers. Another had 11 or 12 plus their kids, nearly 20. Over 300 did show. But dozens of weddings, none. Mine, none. 7 of my other brothers and sisters, none. And one sister more than 20, of under a hundred rsvp yes. Every one, a cousin or friend of the groom. . . . Do not plan on them, supplying not enough things. But talk about what you will do if there are a lot.
  • Katelyn
    Devoted May 2017
    Katelyn ·

    I agree percentages are hard, but with some like favors (i.e. candy bags), you should be fine to be a few short. Most people have a couple of no-shows. I didn't but 4 people who RSVP'ed yes canceled 1-2 weeks before the wedding. Also, not everyone will take a candy bag and couples may just take one anyways.

  • Expert August 2020

    I'd just go ahead and order a few more. Just to be on the safe side. Worst case scenario, you have a few extra for a snack later.

    We invited about 50 people. 45 RSVP'd. Of those 45, only about 40 actually showed up.

  • Megan
    VIP January 2019
    Megan ·
    125 rsvpd, 112 showed. And all missing were legitimate medical emergencies (gall bladder, Kid needed tonsillectomy, very ill) or one family emergency. Sh*+ happens man. Plan for everyone.

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