Percentage don’t come to wedding

I think it depends! Do you have a lot of guests coming in from out of town? I've heard people say 10-20%.

Never count on people not coming. The ones that do always seem to have 100% attendance.

I hear 10-20% but that seems like a lot. I guess it depends on how many people you’re inviting in general. The more you invite, the more that won’t come typically. I’m inviting 115 and I don’t think more than 7 will say no.

Awh man that totally varies!

10-20% is the norm for a wedding that is near your home but less than 50% is the norm for a DW.

However, there are always exceptions to the rule.

I think it really varies, and even a 10-20% average seems like a lot. We had a total RSVP yes of 108 and 105 of them showed up.

There are so many posts on this forum from couples who had 100% attendance, I think you absolutely HAVE to plan for that. However, we had an 81% acceptance rate (which was exactly what we predicted, based on out-of-town/country, elderly relatives, etc. that we expected to decline), but our total included four people we expected to decline and four we expected to come who declined.... So, you just can't know for sure until your RSVPs are finalized.

10-20% is my guideline. Now I didn't over-invite, we will pay if everyone decides to come. FH is confident everyone will come and I just laugh because I guarantee many of his military friends won't come (many live far). Or say, his one work friend where we didn't go to his wedding because FH couldn't get off work. Easily could happen the same way or they just opt not to come cuz we didn't go to theirs. I know my friends will come, I think his side of guests overcompensated that they "all will come".

20% I think is the average but it depends on your family...I already know more than that will decline for us...my family isn't close at all, neither is FH's so we have a lot of "obligatory" invites going out with no expectation of them being there. My parents are paying for the majority of the wedding, including the invites, so if they want me to send them to people who we already know aren't coming then so be it.

We only had about 5 people RSVP no, and we did not have any no shows the day of.

Don't over invite and hope that people won't show.

I'm super worried about this! We got pressured into inviting way more people than we wanted to, and my fiance has a very big family. His parents told us most of their family wouldn't come but they've already started asking us for hotel information so I'm super afraid that we're screwed. I keep trying to tell my family and his (as well as other friends who are planning), don't invite someone assuming they won't show up, you have to assume they will. We're sending invites out a bit early and in waves to start getting a jump on the RSVP count, with invites going to the wedding party and immediate family first (since we know they'll come back), and hoping that also gives us a bit more assembly time. But ugh, so stressful!!!

Rule of thumb is 20% but budget for everyone showing up. We invited 182 and 141 attended so ours was 23% decline.