People who invite themselves?

I definitely would have let them know that due to budget/venue capacity, that you're unable to add any more people to your event. I've had a couple people do that too and they made it seem like we were closer than we really are. She called herself family and I'm like we don't even talk that much! Hardly ever to be honest. Some people are just like that, unfortunately.

Yeah, this happens a lot, unfortunately. It's really super rude, but I find most people nowadays have no manners or any idea about etiquette anyway. Then you have those who perceive a closer relationship than you had imagined, as Jasmine pointed out. Example: I bowl with you once a week, and never see or speak to you any other time in life--doesn't make us besties.

I would just smile and say, thank you, but we have limited space and a very tight budget. We have already reached our guest limit, and cannot add any more.

I haven’t had anyone invite themselves more like assume they’re invited, or like trying to bring it up to see if they’re invited kinda.. like one keeps asking about how wedding planning is going but I know it’s her way of asking if she’s invited, she also was like if you need a flower girl... I’m like 😬😬

It's incredibly rude for people to ask for an invite, even if they're just joking. In my opinion, you don't owe them an explanation, but I would say something like, "The guest list has been finalized already, unfortunately. We'd love to celebrate with you before or afterward!"

We had this happen with a guy I am friends with. He kept asking where his invitation was. He wasn't originally included on our guest list since we weren't as close as we used to be. I told my husband he kept hinting at an invite so my husband said to go ahead and invite him so I sent him an invitation. Within days of getting, it he sent me a Facebook message saying he couldn't attend, but thanked for the invite. I wasn't happy because I took the time to put together an invitation for him, stamp it and the RSVP envelope and drive it to the post office. It is so frustrating that people do this, but I would just politely tell them you unfortunately can't accommodate everyone.

It’s common, annoying and disrespectful. I just went to my Alma Mater’s homecoming two weeks ago - my wedding came up in almost every conversation and not because of me. Anyway, there were some people that I said “Oh, we haven’t discussed guest lists” to “You don’t even like us.” I don’t agree with everyone saying just tell them “budget or venue capacity” as an excuse. Personally, I’m inviting who I’m inviting. If that isn’t you, you will know when my wedding happens and you’re not there. They’ll get over it.

Yeah, my neighbors asked me to invite them to my wedding as I was moving out. They're good people and I would miss them as neighbors, but I didn't really plan on inviting them?? I was just as floored as you were!!! I decided to invite them since it's only those two and luckily no one else has asked... I don't know what I'd do if it was a whole bowling league though!

You may also have people that show up anyway.

I dealt with this from some well-meaning friends who I work with... I ended up saying “we’ll see!” The first time. Then again she said something about can we come to your wedding?! And I said something straight forward like “I don’t think so, budget’s pretty tight!” Fortunately we were all drinking so we all kind of laughed it off. Whatever. Just go with your gut.

SO weird though and super rude!

I've had a couple of people ask me for dates and when they might be receiving invitations or about our registry. We've mostly been kinda playing it off as a joke and saying it will basically be family only and making a joke about being poor college kids.

View Quoted Comment Good thing it’s destination. 😊 I know I won’t have randoms because of that

So rude! Unfortunately, this is very common. I had a couple co-workers who asked if they were invited... I had just started my job at that point, so I had only known them less than a week when they asked. I just awkwardly looked at them, I was flabbergasted! I don't even remember what I said! They both said, "oh we just need an excuse to go to Florida". Excuse me?!?

Omg! I have the same situation. I had 2 people text me and say can't wait for your wedding. I didn't plan to invite them. I think depending on your wedding size, just tell them you are on a tight budget, and can't invite everyone.

I have Had this happen once and I politely told them that we did not have space for them and that the guest list was full.

This has happened to my fiancé and me. I was actually shocked at the number of people that asked about being invited to the wedding. We have been very clear that the capacity for the reception has been reached but they are more than welcomed to attend the ceremony only if they so desire.