People threatening to crash our wedding

Ew! Hire security or something. Maybe.

So in a nice way when the show up ask them to leave. Im.sorry I know there's people that they think cause they are family they can do anything

Security. Also, they make themselves look bad. Not you. Remember that.

You don't need to feel any obligation to feed them either. Sorry not sorry.

Yikes!!! I hope she was just joking!

I would let them know If they show up they'll be escorted out.

If the Aunt is in on it she'd be leaving with them.

Ugh that's so annoying! Talk to your venue how they handle situations like that

FH just said that he wants me to get over it and just let them come so it doesn't make it awkward at future family gatherings???

No put your foot down! That's 8 extra people! Hell no. Warn your venue and talk about ways to prevent this.

Tell FH he needs to take his b@lls and use them (sorry its one of those days/weeks) and let them know under NO CIRCUMSTANCES is this thinking okay. And then remind him that more people mean more money to spend.

Don't let them come. You made a rule for your guest list, you need to stick by it. If you invite them, you have to invite the others that you had to cut to begin with. It'll be awkward no matter what. If adults can't deal with it, that's their problem not yours.

FH needs to get a grip - fuck that. You don't allow people to just walk all over you like that.

I would call this Aunt and tell her to try it because security will be at the door lol.

The only person who would be able to handle it is his aunt, and she's the one who told them all of the wedding info so that they would come even though we told her they were not invited. FH's parents are refusing to come to the wedding because they hate the entire family and they also don't like me (his mom threatened to start a physical fight with his aunt at our wedding and I told her if she did she would be escorted out--since then they have trash talked me to everyone on gods green earth and claimed they were going to try to stop FH fom marrying me). I love FH and I'm so glad to be marrying him but his family has been a nightmare this entire time.

Send them an invoice for the additional plates and drinks with a letter saying that should they choose to crash the wedding uninvited, they will be responsible for the additional cost enclosed.

Alright, breathe. This individual would love to know that you are actually panicking about the revenge threat she's issued. That, in and of itself, is her reward.

Now think...think...there is little chance that she will convince seven other people (people who don't know you and don't care about their lack of an invitation) to join her on her Avenging Assholes Mission. She wants to scare you -- that's all.

If you are truly concerned, speak to your venue manager today. Let him/her know what she's threatened. Follow that up with an email. The next time you meet with the venue/event manager (or your DOC), repeat your concerns. Let everyone know that removing them without a scene is Job One -- keep telling them. You may end up being referred to as the bride with the Hillbilly Crashers, but who cares? If you are generally concerned, put your paid professionals in a pro-active stance.

But remember...the chances of her actually following through are zero to none.

Because I hate removing the extra spaces when you edit a post, I'll just say it in a new post: don't give the aunt passing this BS any information. If she brings it up again, just say, "Yes. I remember you saying something about that. So, are you going to be staying at the hotel, or do you think you'll just drive home after the wedding?" Cut it off at the source, and for now, she is the source.