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FutureMrsKC
Master January 2019

People still bitter they weren't invited to the wedding...

FutureMrsKC, on April 10, 2019 at 2:00 PM Posted in Married Life 0 22

Whew, it's been a minute since I made a post and honestly never thought I'd post again! But here we are, almost 3 months post-wedding and we are still getting comments here and there from random people who were not invited.

Last night we were at the county fair for a concert and we ran into some of my in-laws friends. They made the comment "Hey still waiting on my invite, oh wait you're already married! It's ok I heard it was tight. Yall needed to get a bigger space!"

Ugh...I was actually surprised he said this to our face totally serious. My husband tried to play it off and say "Oh yeah we had a smaller venue and had to squeeze people in."

We had 160 people in our venue and we literally could not have put another table for safety reasons. Not that we need to explain ourselves. But I don't think thats small by any means either.

Then the family friend proceeded to say "Yeah I talked to your step dad last week and he said he had friends he wanted there that weren't invited." Which means they had an actual conversation about it, likely not joking around. Are people really like this? Does it really matter now? It doesn't bother me if they feel left out (meanwhile this was a family friend I literally met yesterday, and a handful of people who were invited I had never met prior to the wedding but I let it slide...)

Sorry we cannot invite the entire county! Husband and his family knows everyone, small town problems, but I'm shocked people actually have the guts to express this stuff to us as if to make us feel guilty for not having them.

Then he ends the conversation with, "It looked like a tight space, I saw pictures." Ok bye. Our guests were comfortable and we did hit the max limit we could have. People these days!

Rant over. Just letting yall know that just because the wedding ends does not always mean the opinions do, lol!

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Latest activity by Jennifer, on April 25, 2019 at 3:01 PM
  • Saraí
    April 2019
    Saraí ·
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    I get so shocked knowing people do this kind of stuff. Why do they think this is ok to say? wow. In the end I am sure you had a wonderful day and I'm glad you did not invite them lol.

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  • Formerbride
    VIP June 2019
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    WOW. That person is insanely rude and tacky. Sorry some nimrod spoke to you like that!

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  • Mandy
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    I think it's rude of people to mention it like that. I would have simply said something like "yeah, step-dad didn't pay for the wedding, we did, so we invited our closest friends and family and not his" just to shut them up. Not that you have to give them ANY reason on why you didn't invite them. They easily could have said "we saw your pictures from the wedding and it looked great" and let it go. My mom asked a cousin for her brothers address and naturally cousin gave hers as well assuming she was invited. Okay, that's two people who probably won't show up so I sent them an invite, but it really pissed me off and I let my mom know. I hope I don't run into people like that - but I'm sure I'll catch a few.

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  • Jessica
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    So tacky of them to even mention it. Sounds like you dodged a bullet by not having them there anyway Smiley winking

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    I feel like people think its ok to say things like that if they're "joking" but it's not a joke when you know they mean it. Totally rubbed me the wrong way and gave a terrible first impression for someone I just met.

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    I definitely wanted to say something like that but in the moment I was kind of shocked and really didn't know what to say. My husband tried to play it off cool but I was standing behind him slightly fuming lol! We ended up inviting people as well because they said something or assumed they were invited. They actually ended up coming which was nice but looking back I totally could have gotten married without them. I regret not being stricter on the list but apparently everyone except us thinks we were super strict!

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    Yes, tacky is the perfect word! In my opinion, no matter how close you are to my husbands family, if we never met you do not have a place at our wedding. After 3 years of dating the people closest to us were the ones there!

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  • Joanne
    Dedicated April 2019
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    And thats why he wasn't invited..........the attitude ALONE said UNINVITED, NEXT!

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  • FutureMrsKC
    Master January 2019
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    Amen!!!!!!

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  • Gen
    Champion June 2019
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    That's just so rude! At least you know you made the right decision not inviting people who would speak to you like that! Smiley smile

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  • Melissa
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    I only had a few people say anything to me about not being invited and be somewhat rude about it - a few cousins who I don't really speak to outside of family gatherings at holidays. And even then it's "hey, how are you, ok bye see you next year." My response to snarky comments was basically "Well maybe if we had spoken in the last 5 years and you hadn't blocked me on social media you would have had an invite too!" People, ugh.

    So sorry people can't keep their comments to themselves! But hey, we can't please everyone, right? As long as you enjoyed yourselves, brush them off and go about your day Smiley smile

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  • Danielle
    Master June 2019
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    Some people just don't think before they speak. I truly don't think some people realize how much goes into a wedding, it's a lot, and unfortunately...unless you are super rich, you can't accommodate everyone. I have some people that I'm not able to invite, but at the end of the day..it is what it is, I simply can't afford to "go bigger."

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  • Fmv
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    Thats so tacky! Sounds like hes just being spiteful
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  • Christine
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    That's so rude and tacky! I can't believe people have the nerve to say things like that. You are a saint for keeping your cool and playing it off though.

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  • Mcskipper
    Master July 2018
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    People are ridiculous. I never even understand why these distant family friends would even WANT to go. They sound super bitter. I’d also guess that if the step-dad made that comment to them it’s cuz they brought it up and he was getting super uncomfortable and tried to appease them to make them
    feel better. Geez, sounds like they need a reality check that the world doesn’t revolve around them and they’re just not the most important people to you. Most normal people can understand this, but I think it’s a certain breed of narcissistic folk that don’t.

    on THAT note, I had a “friend” who I’m sure will never speak to me again bc I didn’t invite her to our wedding. Turns out (as I heard through a mutual friend) that she presumed that she’d be invited bc she invited us to HER wedding that had taken place ~6 months before ours. ....the thing is, we didn’t go to her wedding. Because I hadn’t seen her since she got engaged, like she met her man and dropped off the earth. If she wasn’t gonna make the effort to hang on the day to day, I wasn’t about to take an expensive trip for her wedding. Funnily I had included her on our preliminary guest list , and told my husband “if by the time save the dates go out, she’s reached out to me about ANYTHING other than collecting addresses for her wedding invites and spelling of names, I’ll want to invite her” She didn’t. So then before INVITES went out, I said to my husband “I’ll still invite if she reaches out about ANYTHING at all” She didn’t. By the time we sent invites out, we hadn’t spoken in 1.5 years. Except about aforementioned details about her wedding (like, she’d text to confirm address. I’d give it, and then start conversation, ask her about how she is and how planning was going. She’d answer and talk about her planning. Not even returning the question to me. Conversation ends. So, 1.5 years and those are our only exchanges, and now she is hurt that I didn’t invite her????? Girl, I don’t even know if I’d recognize you in the street it’s been so long since I’ve seen you !! As time passed, trimming that guestlist became easier and easier 🤣
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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
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    Wow!!! That's crazy!! However - your wedding must have been incredible if people are still whining about not getting an invite! Smiley winking


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    Until planning a wedding, I never realized how rude people can truly be.
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  • Paige
    Savvy March 2019
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    Oh man! That is awful!! My cousin just sent me a looong text about how her dad was “genuinely hurt” that he didn’t get invited to my wedding ... left that on read til I figured out something not rude to say back. I have a bit of a temper in person so I don’t know what I would do if someone did it right to my face like they did you!!

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    Passive-Aggressive much? Some people really suck and have no awareness of what it means to be polite.

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    Devoted October 2019
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    Ugh—that’s so uncomfortable.
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