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Just Said Yes June 2023

People showed up who were not invited

India, on June 12, 2023 at 3:16 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 7
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Hi everyone! My wedding was June 10th and it was perfect and magical. However, during the ceremony as I was about to say my vows, I looked up and realized someone I didn’t even know was sitting there in the crowd. We invited my husband’s family friends (an older couple and their adult son). Their invitation listed the three of them by name and the online invitation only allowed them to select up to three people in attendance. They took it upon themselves to bring their adult daughter and her boyfriend. He showed up in cargo pants and a henley. I am floored that anyone would ever think it was acceptable to come to a wedding (or bring other people) when they weren’t invited. Has anyone experienced this? How do you handle it? We chose to ignore it and not let it mess with our peace of mind on the day. But now looking back on it I am so angry. Do we talk to them about it? Let it go? Thanks for listening/validating.

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Latest activity by Theresa, on June 12, 2023 at 8:05 PM
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    CM ·
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    That’s incredibly rude and annoying. Still, IMO you did the right thing in accomodating their apparent ignorance or misunderstanding and not making a scene. Did you have assigned tables? If so, it must have become obvious to them they weren’t expected.


    My recourse would be not inviting them anywhere in the future. No I would not confront them. There’s no point.
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  • LM
    Super December 2022
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    Congratulations on getting married. I have a few questions. Why was the adult daughter not invited? Does she not live in the same household? Was this buffet or plated dinner? Or another style reception?

    If they're family friends, I'd have your partner casually mention something to his parents who in turn can casually question their friends. But, do you need to know exactly why they came?

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    I appreciate the advice and I think you’re right. There’s no point and it wouldn’t lead anywhere positive. Yes there was a table assignment chart and no they didn’t fit at their table..I’m sure it was obvious 😅
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  • Alyssa
    Super October 2023
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    I have the question on where the heck did they sit?
    Send them a thank you card for bringing their audacity with them(this is a joke for legal purposes)
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    They had to spread to another table because of course there were not enough open seats at theirs. Haha! That would be so satisfying but I will be mature.
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  • India
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    My husband knows the daughter but isn’t close friends with her like he is the son. The parents are friends with his parents. No, they do not live together - she owns her own home. The dinner was buffet style so thankfully it worked out, but our catering bill was per person. The tables were assigned so there was not room for them, and we almost didn’t have enough chairs.


    No, you’re right - we won’t gain anything by knowing why they came. It’s just disappointing and frustrating when we worked so hard to ensure our wedding was intimate and filled with only people we really love.
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    I agree with CM, don't invite them anywhere in the future. If they ever ask why they aren't invited anywhere, then you can tell them that you can't trust them not to bring other people who weren't invited.

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