People haven't bought us gifts??

I never buy a gift for a wedding. I always write a check or give cash. Maybe your guests are similar.

Some people just give money in a card as a gift or bring the gifts to the wedding.

I agree with what others are saying, perhaps they will be bringing a card with money, that is so common and traditional in many cultures. Also, if they are like me, they wouldn't be buying a gift until the week of. Especially if they are buying off your registry because those are typically mailed to the couple directly. Your Fiance is right but it is also a little understandable to be bummed. I would just say, hold off on being bummed until after the wedding.

For our friends wedding we brought their gift the day of. So you may have a lot of people waiting to bring your gift until the day of the wedding!

I never bring a gift

View Quoted Comment Do you have a reason for that? I'm just curious !

View Quoted Comment That's true - it doesn't help that I can see the registry and what has been bought. That's probably my problem

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I am right there with you. I hate that I can see everything because then I obsess over it. My Fiance has had to talk me down a few times lol

The reason for a wedding is to to get gifts....Technically a guest has up to one year to give a gift if they wish. Look at it this way...if you get something great, if not do not worry about it. Most people will bring a card with cash to the wedding.

Many people still don't know that good etiquette dictates that if a guest is going to buy a gift, they have it delivered before or after the wedding. Many people will still show up at the reception toting a wrapped gift or a card with cash. Both of those impose a responsibility on the couple, or someone close to them, to ensure the security of those gifts.

Most people only give physical gifts for showers.

I have never given a gift for a wedding, always a card with a cash in the form of a check. I only buy gifts for showers.

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Is this really what you meant or is there a typo? I would strongly disagree that the "reason for a wedding is to get gifts...."

Personally, I think it's a little weird that the OP is counting how many people have bought gifts so far.

I agree with pp's, if a guest chooses to give a gift (and, in my experience, most do), physical gifts should be sent before or after the wedding and not brought to the wedding/reception because that means someone has to be responsible for transporting them. However, most people I know give a monetary gift (cash or check) in a card. Those can be brought to the wedding, but many, including me, prefer to send them directly to the couple before the wedding so they don't have deal with them the day of either.

I havne't gotten any gifts, my shower is in about 2 weeks.. I honestly could care less. We have a small registry. Nothing large. Having my friends and family there to celebrate with us is more important than keeping track of who gives me what.

I’m not having a shower and we’re not registering for gifts. We don’t want gifts, we just want our friends and family there. But we’re also both in our 30s and have all of the stuff we could possibly need in our homes. And when we finally live in the same country and move in together, we’ll likely end up getting rid of a lot of stuff. Doesn’t seem right to register.

I was married before when I was 22. I didn’t want to register for gifts, so my mother did for me. Then I had a bridal shower, everyone brought gifts to this. And then nearly all of our guests brought us cash at the wedding.

And whenever I attend showers and weddings, I bring a gift to the shower and cash to the wedding. If you are choosing to get the couple a physical gift, then you are technically supposed to have it shipped, not bring it to the reception. However, cards & cash are generally accepted at the reception.

These days I would say the majority of people just bring cash to the wedding as a gift. I’m pretty sure you’ll be pleasantly surprised after your wedding when you go through the envelopes.

I’m not having a shower, nor making a registry, nor do I expect any gifts/cash at the wedding. We’re having a destination wedding and a reception back home but since our guests are paying to get there we don’t want/expect anything from anyone, just their presence!! Even before we decided on a destination wedding we didn’t want any gifts, we just want our family and friends there to share our special day with us! I think your husband is 100% correct, just be grateful for what you’ve gotten.

Many people give cash or dont buy from registries. Or dont scan at the cashier to remove from list.

If my wedding was in 11 days I'd be more focused on the fact that I'm getting married than whether or not my friends and family are spending money on me.

I don't ever buy a gift. Always just put money into a card. I am sure that everything will be fine. Do not freak yourself out about it!

I've read many posts on here where people say that they didn't get gifts but then also say they received money with cards. To me, anything that someone would give me at an event like a wedding is a gift, whether it's in the form of something from the registry or cash. Is there really that much of a distinction between the two?