People assuming invites

A really strange phenomenon that weirdly happens all the time--way more often than most couples think before they're engaged. I really don't get people who do this. I'm glad they didn't corner you in person (the most awkward of situations in my experience) but the usual "Due to limited space at our venue, we could not go beyond our current numbers. How's your parent/child/another shared relative doing?" is usually the best way to go.

Just leave on read lol. Life events people feel they have all access to it.

That's ridiculous. A cousin of mine was talking to my mom and she asked my mom (cause it was accidentally brought up in conversation in regards to something else) if they were invited. Granted when said cousin got married, she invited us and we are grateful but we haven't seen or spoken to each other in forever.

It's just like if you haven't heard anything it's probably cause you're not invited. No offense intended toward them but I already have a huge family as it goes and I'm just about inviting those who are still in contact. I hate when people do that!

Yeah this happened a few times to us too. A few people from high school who I haven't seen in almost 8 year told me that can't wait for their invites... Needless to say I always changed the subject or just ignored the messages. Also, my one of my grandmas asked me whether or not she is able to bring people to the wedding (like bring family whom I'm not at all close to and those who I don't even remember) and I told her no, she can't because we're keeping our list intimate and we're inviting the closest people. She understood and never brought it up again. I really hope that no one shows up with unknown attendants.

I think there's a level of it where they abuse the "open bar." or "free food" aspect and I think it's so rude. There's been a couple times where i've had to tell my family no plus ones, or just flat out no. I am sorry that you're having to deal with this.

We just saw someone - *at a memorial service* - who said he wished he'd been at our wedding.

We hadn't seen him in well over a year.

He was tangentially aware of my family drama because I had made my decision about breaking from my mother public.

So... even *after* the wedding, people pull this.

My cousin is expecting their first child, due 6 days before our wedding.

They are being hopeful that if they have the baby before the wedding then "[baby's father]'s parents will watch the baby and not go to the wedding and we can come!".

Baby father's parents were never invited, so yes, they should stay home lol

Yup. First thing that happened after announcing our engagement on
social media was a comment from a childhood friend (who I haven't seen
or spoken to since 2006) stating, "I better be invited since you were
invited to my wedding". Again, her wedding was in 2006. We have maybe
"thumbs upped" a comment on each other's pages over the years but we
haven't spoken or anything. It was so weird. And I was confused. Then
another person did it, and then another. And I went from confused to
pissed.

Of course, FH being the pragmatic and positive soul he is, did tell me this and it helped a lot:

"People
are excited for our wedding. Some people are so excited all their
manners just fly out the window. They don't mean to be rude. They just
get wrapped up in the excitement and start dreaming all your dreams for
you. Don't hold it against them. They probably kick themselves later
when they realize how awful they were, and they hope you'll forget."

I
can honestly say, not one of the people who invited themselves have
brought it up again. I just ignored it and it went away. I do agree that
maybe they're overly excited. I'm the last of my friends and family to
get married, after all. But it sure does throw you for a loop!!