People asking if they are invited to our wedding...

No - thank goodness! I do know there are other ladies on here that have had that experience. I just tell people its a small wedding of 40 and then everyone gets nervous wondering if they made the cut, haha.

I just explain that I have a limited amount of space at my venue, and I can't invite everyone. If you are on the list, you'll get an invite, otherwise, I'm sorry we couldn't accommodate you.

Yes. And being super tacky by asking on Facebook. If they ask in person it's so awkward that all I can do is laugh and change the subject. If they do it through text or social networking sites, I just ignore them.

Ugh aren't they the worst? Yes, I've had some people ask and I just tell them that we don't know the final guest count yet and we're trying to keep it small.

I had that question a few weeks ago and it threw me for a loop. It is soooooooooo rude. If you have to ask, that means no. At the time I told her there was a B list and if I had any back out..( I did post here and got some great feedback) next time if I get that question, I am just going to play it off and say..girl if I won the lottery,everyone would come but I didn't

I've had that happen and I simply tell them that the final guest list hasn't been decided yet and I have some difficult choices to make.

Yeah, we say that we're still planning and also not having a large wedding.

No one has asked me, but people have asked my mother..

and of course she says "yes! we sent you an invitation, didnt you get it?"

and she then sends them an invitation.. our list has grown by about 30 already (we initially invited 375, thats all our reception hall will hold) and every day I get back rsvps, shes asks if there were any no's so she can invite more.. but since shes helped alot with the wedding, I cant really tell her no.. it is what it is I guess. Since my wedding is the only wedding she will be "hosting" I guess she wants everyone to be there & is super excited.

I've only had one ask so far and since her husband travels a ton for work and it really is just her, I wouldn't necessarily have invited her, but I'm going to now. Anyone else though, I'm going the route of "we are keeping things really simple & aren't able to include everyone we'd like to."

I am expecting this to happen. With FH's job, we have a ton of friends in the racing community, and although we are inviting everyone we are close with, there are others we are leaving off due to budget constraints. The biggest thing is, I know its going to be an issue, and they are going to try guilt trip us. However FH and FMIL and I have planned to be strong and polity say "No."

I had girl who knows my FH somehow come up to me and ask if she was invited. I told her I didn't have the guest list finished yet at the time (plus i had no idea who she was) and she was like "that's ok i'll just come as someone's plus one so let me know who has a plus one leftover" wtf.

I had an ex ask! It was very weird. I flat out told him he wasn't invited.

I also had one of my cousins ask and even though she is invited, it was still awkward. My dad is really excited and has been telling EVERYONE. We were at a funeral for my dad's uncle and he was talking about it, and when we left he said he wanted to add a bunch of people to his invite list, including his dad's first wife (NOT his mother!)

Rudest thing ever, sometimes it's fun answering an awkward/rude question with an awkward/rude answer. I would feel weird being at a wedding only because I guilted my way in.

I work for the my state's House of Representatives and I have had two members ask. I just don't say anything and continue drinking my wine. Brown hair, don't care.

AUDREA WE HAVE THE SAME WEDDING DATE! Finally I found someone!

I don't know if it's because I'm young or if it's because I have really immature friends, but when we made the engagement announcement on Facebook, I think 6 people said "CONGRATS, I better get invited!" ..I hadn't talked to them in YEARS. Like what makes them think they're going to be invited? UGHHHH. Luckily, though, I just said "thanks" and left it at that.

I've had some people assume they were invited. I just kind of ignored it because I'm passive aggressive like that. But they aren't getting an invitation lol

GameCox and I are I the same boat. I'm required to invite a crap load of people for etiquette reasons. Luckily, I'm getting married out of state. A politician isn't leaving California 9 days before an election. Smartest choice I ever made.

FH's coworkers were killing him with this. We have a 130 guest limit and I have divorced and remarried parents so just our families take up a large chunk of the guest list. They kept asking and assuming they were going and he's not very close to any of them (he's a driver so he doesnt spend much time in the store he works for) so we talked about it and decided to invite them but not their significant others since he doesn't know them at all. Apparently when he told them this they threw a fit and said they wouldn't show up then and all this other stuff. So that's that and we're not giving them invitations at all now. I think it's absolutely rude to ask at all and it was beyond childish to flip out that we don't have room for their boyfriends.

I pretty much follow FutureDrCarter's model. Does "no pay, no say" apply in this instance? It's probably about as socially acceptable as asking someone if they will be invited lol.

We haven't had too many people ask if they are invited but we have had people that are invited ask if they can bring a date. Did we reserve two seats in your honor? Then no.

We have had one awkward situation with a friend of mine. She actually introduced FH and I while they were casually dating and I had a boyfriend. Somehow we ended up together instead of them and she thought she should be invited to the wedding since she introduced us. Both of us have avoided the question though because it's super awkward. Like yeah we are friends on Facebook but we have never hung out since we worked together/the night she introduced us SIX YEARS AGO and we don't talk regularly...and FH isn't even FB friends with her.