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Dedicated November 2018

People are so nosey ! $$

FutureMrsDeVito, on July 3, 2018 at 10:45 AM Posted in Planning 0 32

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Hey guys- just wondering if other couples are being subjected to the same conversations as we are. Recently several, SEVERAL people have asked us either directly or indirectly about who is paying for, or assisting with paying for our wedding. WHAT? This is just so bizarre to me. Never in a million years would I think to ask someone about their financial situation, let alone who is paying for their wedding. This just blows my mind. I'll be honest, I've gotten pretty annoyed at these questions, as I just find them very invasive. Maybe I'm just overreacting but, sheesh. #endrant
Have any of you experienced similar invasive questions?

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Latest activity by Tara, on February 22, 2019 at 11:55 AM

Super September 2018
Teresa · on July 3, 2018 at 10:47 AM
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No one has asked me (I assume no one asked FH but who knows). I would be thrown off just like you if someone asked.
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Kristen · on July 3, 2018 at 10:50 AM
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Yes!!! I have been asked by several people, mostly people who are family friends that are middle aged or older.
When I tell them FH and I are paying for most of it I get ridiculed too so I don't understand. But whatever, none of these people are invited to my wedding anyway.
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OG Gretchen · on July 3, 2018 at 10:53 AM
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We had a new neighbor move in and come over to meet us. His first words to us were, "My name is John. I see you work at ______, how much do you bring home a year?" People are BALLSY.
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Tori · on July 3, 2018 at 10:54 AM
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I flat out just tell people we're paying for it. People keep asking me when I'm going to finish my leg piece and I'm like yeah I have a wedding to pay for first. Can't justify spending over $1000 on a tattoo right now.

I don't think anyone has really asked me that I know of. I'm a pretty open person, and don't understand why people get so nuts about money. But if it bothers just tell people to mind their own business.
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MIWM · on July 3, 2018 at 10:54 AM
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Yes I have had this happen to me and my fiancé as well. We tell them that we are paying for our own wedding and leave it at that. It's none of anyone's business.
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FutureMrsDeVito · on July 3, 2018 at 10:58 AM
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Yes, so true ! You guys are right. Even though it has happened several times, it still catches me off guard. I do tell them that we are paying for it ourselves and then people have followed up asking why. Ugh, some people.
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Rachelle · on July 3, 2018 at 11:04 AM
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Yes! I'm pretty blunt though and tell them it's none of their business.
"What's your budget?" "How much are you spending on this shindig?" "Aren't you're parents paying for any of it?"
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Champion June 2018
muriel · on July 3, 2018 at 11:06 AM
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Etiquette experts suggest responding to an inappropriate question with another question " Why do you ask?"
You are under no obligation to respond in any way, to a rude question.
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Brittany · on July 3, 2018 at 11:09 AM
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We just tell people "We have help where we need it"
My fiance and I are paying for 95% but my parents have given us some money and a lot of people expect that my parents are paying for the wedding and I'd never want to give people a chance to judge them for not paying for the wedding when my fiance and I have no problem paying for it on our own. So I just stay veryyyy vague.
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DC Wife 10.27.18 · on July 3, 2018 at 11:17 AM
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No one has asked me. If they did, there would undoubtedly be a "misunderstanding" especially if they ask FH. He doesn't play with nosey people.
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Josie · on July 3, 2018 at 11:22 AM
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Rudest thing ever!! My fiancé’s bother keeps asking how much we paid for this & that. Venue blah blah. He is engaged and wants to get married but wants to pay nothing lol. When I told him (reluctantly) how much our venue was he told me how it’s a waste of money etc I was like 😧🤣 especially since our venue Is on the cheap side!! I tried to help him out and linked his fiancé some beach wedding packages (literally starting at $495) and he said that’s too expensive!!! I was laughing on the inside because good luck getting married!!!
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ThePeoplesBride · on July 3, 2018 at 11:28 AM
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Whoa! Is 'ballsy' an intense enough word for that greeting?
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ThePeoplesBride · on July 3, 2018 at 11:31 AM
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No one has asked but tons of people have just assumed that my dad is paying for everything.

A family friend asked my dad if he was alright financially once they found out that we were paying for our wedding ourselves. Talk about making a complete a** out of yourself.
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MrsD · on July 3, 2018 at 11:34 AM
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It hasn't happened to me (yet) but I can't imagine asking someone that haha!
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Tori · on July 3, 2018 at 11:37 AM
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So it isn't just me? Omg I think it's very rude. Sorry you're having to deal with it too. Just smile and ask if they've RSVP'D yet.
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Ashley · on July 3, 2018 at 11:38 AM
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Ask if the person is wanting to help out with the costs, because if so, then they might be privy to that information. Haha
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rica · on July 3, 2018 at 11:44 AM
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Wow! That’s a new one!
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Super October 2018
Steph N. · on July 3, 2018 at 11:44 AM
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I’ve actually been asked this a few times, too. I’m not sure why people want to know this? I would never EVER ask someone who is paying for their wedding.
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rica · on July 3, 2018 at 11:44 AM
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The receptionist at my dentist asked me recently...
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kymarmck · on July 3, 2018 at 11:50 AM
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The only encounter I've had is one friend who told me "well, are your parents paying for the wedding?"

It was awkward to deflect, simply because I don't think they need to know if someone is helping us, but I ended up saying "As of right now, we are planning on paying for the wedding ourselves."
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