People and their opinions

We (fortunately) didn't get this! But I did 90% of the planning by myself and basically my husband helped, my mom helped with the florist. I didn't ask for help nor talk about it with many people so we avoided talking about it all together with most people haha!

Omg amen! I didn’t tell many people what I was doing for my wedding. I went dress shopping by myself, planned everything alone and didn’t ask for many opinions on anything because I had so many people wanting to give their advice. I think the less people know the less stressful it can be.

View Quoted Comment This is the point I am at! When people would ask I️ would share some details but now I hold back! I have family members who haven’t been in my life in years asking me questions and trying to dictate lmao! Oh well we will be doing what and how we want

View Quoted Comment Yes I 100% agree. I am now learning not to tell anyone anything even mybridal party I am keeping some details about the day of to myself until a little closer to the wedding. I’ve had negative feed back in regards to dress material where to take photos etc etc and I am done lol

I hear ya. It's funny too because I never complained about their weddings! They should just be happy for me and keep their opinions to themselves.

I know exactly what you're talking about but only through stories. I'm safe as of now but people swear they have nothing better to do. I have so much sass so if I run into this, they can bring it because I'm ready lol

Yea! Everyone is soooo opinionated sometimes.

I'm purposely not telling a lot of people the details of our wedding. Everyone is so opinionated and I know we would get some unnecessary negative feedback. I'm doing most of the planning, along with the help of my FH, mom, and sister. My FMIL is helping out too, but just not as involved. I haven't even talked about details with the bridesmaids! My FH and I know what we want and are sticking to it.Usually when co-workers or acquaintances ask about the wedding, I'm usually very vague lol

I’ve only had 2 minor events and they honestly hurt me. My aunt seems to think my wedding should be on my grandmothers birthday (October 2, 2020, a Friday) and she has been deceased for almost 20 years. When I told her it was about myself and my fiancé, she acted like she understood. Now anytime I say to her about the wedding she’s like “it’s YOUR wedding do what YOU want” ew. Petty.

My cousin also has an issue with my bridal party because her daughter (whom I’ve spent less than 10 days with in her entire life) isn’t my flower girl. I was asked to be her godmother, I accepted, but she was never baptized and I’m never invited to her big life events (maybe a birthday party here and there). I’m not having a flower girl and I have a junior bridesmaid who I’ve been extremely close to since she was born.

My mom is very very very good at grounding me and she reminds me that this wedding is about my fiancé and I, and their opinions don’t matter. I will be facing more opinions and pushback once invites go out and it’s made aware that no children are invited. I’m a people pleaser so I’m having a hard time with it but at the end of the day, my wedding. If people aren’t happy with something they don’t have to come 🙃

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OMG I do not see the issue... why is it such a big deal that you did not want that date? yes, it is YOUR wedding why the shade?!

That baffles me as well, all of a sudden people who you never see or you never even get invited to their events or kids parties want their kids in your bridal party or at your wedding lmao it literally makes me laugh! I have so many relatives I see at other family events, I do not get invited to their party or kids parties yet they want to be offended when their kids are not invited to my wedding. We are having kid free, someone actually said well my daughter has to be in your bridal party so they can attend!! what nerve!

Good luck when your invites go out! we have said from the start kids free and even now when we are mailing save the date and shower invites we are still facing so much backlash! people are crazy!!

I'm with you