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Peanut Catastrophe

James, on November 18, 2019 at 9:24 PM Posted in Planning 0 13
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My family is mostly allergic to peanuts, but I love peanuts. Should I say, "Be sure to bring your epipen"? Or should I take their allergies into account. It is my day after all, and peanuts are my favorite nut. So I feel like I have the right to have them at my wedding. Thoughts?

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  • Destiny
    Rockstar May 2020
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    Have them there for what though? favors? in the food? as snacks?

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  • Sarah
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    I think for a few hours you can respect that your family members could potentially die and just leave peanuts out of your wedding.
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  • J
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    James ·
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    I was hoping to have a peanut themed wedding!

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  • J
    Just Said Yes August 2020
    James ·
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    Sarah, they should respect me and my wishes on my special day. My whole life I've had to sacrifice peanuts so that they could have a more convenient meal. I am through.

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  • Sarah
    VIP September 2019
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    Okay then just don’t invite them. Inviting someone who has a life-threatening allergy to a party and then completely ignoring their allergy is rude. If you’re going to put them in danger you might as well just exclude them.
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  • Future Mrs. A. 💍
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    Future Mrs. A. 💍 ·
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    Hmm.. after reading the previous posts.. I’m a little set back but can you explain on how you wanted to have a “peanut themed wedding” I’m not too sure I understand.. I know you said they are your favorite— life threatening allergies are a big deal as well as you having “your day” but I’m sure you can meet in the middle somewhere —- if you explain what you wanted to have (snacks,food,favors, etc) then maybe we can try to help you find a happy medium so both YOU are happy and your guest are in the safe zone when it comes to the allergy
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  • Chandra
    Master May 2019
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    I guess it's one thing to want things to go your way on your special day...but it seems so much more offputting to basically say "suck it family" and ignore life threatening allergies.
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  • Jennifer
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    Jennifer ·
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    Ohhhh yes...you should go all out. Have peanuts as confetti! Peanut butter favors! Peanut butter cakes and candies. You could really rock this. I think an EMT on standby would be an awesome idea too. Toss that into the budget.
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  • Jeanie
    Rockstar February 2020
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    I get that it’s your wedding, but if you ask me, risking killing off half your family for a peanut themed wedding is plain selfish. If you are dead set on going all out with the peanuts, have a small ceremony instead of a big wedding where you can limit inviting family and will be able to control cross contamination much easier. Honestly this post is so outrageous I’m not convinced you’re just trolling...
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  • Future Mrs. A. 💍
    VIP November 2020
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    Good idea Jennifer! 👏🏼 Didn’t even think to just have an EMT on site ! Go girl !!!
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  • Erin
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    I love peanuts and peanut related items, but one of our guest is deathly allergic to peanuts AND tree nuts. My FH and I decided his safety is far more important than our desire to enjoy peanuts on one day of the year. That is not, in any way, a judgement towards you. You are allowed to feel whatever way you are feeling, but as previous posters have said it's one day and you are going to be free to enjoy all the peanuts your heart desires after the wedding (that is unless you and FH are going to be living with family for a bit).

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  • B
    Dedicated October 2020
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    Surely this is a troll.
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  • Jeanette
    Dedicated July 2020
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    Agreed! I would leave them out also. I think you can have one day without peanuts knowing family members are allergic and could die. Rather have a successful wedding or a busted one due to an allergic reaction.
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