Payments for wedding

You could take a second job. Or just cut back on the wedding. For example, if you made the wedding immediate family only, it would substantially decrease your costs.

I hate to say this but the options are to work extra hours or to cut back with regards to your budget. Sadly weddings are expensive but how big you make it is on the couple. I do not think it would go well to ask for money for a wedding. I think cutting your guest list will help and look for reception alternatives like hosting it at a park or rent a venue and cater out. Sorry not what you want to hear but personally I would not fund a wedding.

Never forget that there is nothing wrong with asking for help! Also budget yourself and make weekly payments. I’ve been planning my wedding for 2 years and still have stuff to pay off. Cut back on things if you don’t really absolutely need it. Consider having the family cook or think about cheaper alternatives! DIY weddings can look very nice!

Getting a second job, selling items you no longer need, or reducing the cost of the wedding would be good options.

I got a side job and whatever I earned from that went solely to the wedding

You either work more or you spend less. You can’t have a fundraiser or a go fund me account for a wedding, it’s definitely not appropriate.

I’d look over your wedding expenses and try to cut back on some things that don’t directly affect your or your guests’ experiences (mostly things like decor, favors, etc)

I just got a second job today. I’m a little stressed and wonder if I made the right decision. I’m a nurse, I work average 90 hours in two weeks, sometimes more. My job is stressful enough and now I feel like I’m adding on to it. Our wedding is super important to me, but I wonder if the cost is even worth it when all I want to do is marry my man. We are planning on buying a house after the wedding too, so I hope I made the right decision. But I definitely keep reminding myself the main goal is to marry my FH and that I don’t need sparklers during our first dance or extravagant decor.

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I'm healthcare too! I joined a Special Pathogens Team for the oncall pay as a 2nd job and I applied to teach a class. If you work at a larger hospital your Charge Nurse may know of some add ons that won't stress you out as much. Maybe meetings you have to attend instead of full shifts for safety improvements or something? Or maybe picking up in home care - a little more relaxed then in-house shifts! Or some local community colleges may offer some semester teaching options for extra pay. I'm applying as a Micro teacher this month for the summer as well but our community college was in need of Nursing staff to teach and it pays 46/hr.

You've got this! At the end of the day you marry the man of your dreams, right? That's what is keeping me going... well that and the caffeine - ha!

Budget like your life depends on it. It's so much to pay for all the time but no other person should be paying but you n him. Really cut back on optional things.

YOU can work more hours, get a second job, budget better. I don;t think raising money for the wedding is appropriate. Good luck!

I have well over a year before my wedding but I’ve already started slashing things to save for it. Only one nice outing a month. My fiancé and I are doing maybe 2 date nights a month instead of 4. Cheap date nights at that. Selling clothes and items I don’t wear anymore. No shopping unless it’s for the wedding. Making big changes to your expenditures should hopefully help you put away more cash.

As others have said politely cut back in the areas that don't really matter to you. For us it was signage, flowers, & décor we let our venue be the décor. The things that mattered to us where Food, Drink and Music, that's where we spent the most $$. We kept our guest list to 125 instead of the 200 we wanted to invite. I got a second job to help and H stopped ordering from Amazon everyday . Cut back where you can & make it work.

Thank you all for the advice. I worded the message wrong. I wanted ideas on how my fiancé and I could help ourselves raise money. Second job, cut costs, and research different vendors. All good. We will make it happen!