Paying friends?

We are having a close friend officiate our wedding and we are going to get him a nice bottle of wine and a gift card so he can take his wife out on a date I don't think you are SUPPOSED to do anything but it is a nice jesture

I think a gift would be a nice gesture and plenty to show your gratitude. My brother is officiating our wedding and we'll do a small gift and also paid for him to become ordained.

Does he officiate weddings for a living, or did he get ordained to do yours? If it's his job, you should pay him. If he's doing it as a favor just for you, I would give him a nice physical gift.

FHs best friend is our officiant- we've agreed that we're going to repay him for his costs to be officiated. My FH is also treating him as a groomsman and getting him the same gift as the others.

It'd be nice rather , to get him a thank you gift.

I would give him some kind of thank you gift, like a gift card to a nice restaurant or hotel or something.

I would give him a very nice gift or a gift card. Money may be weird. But you should definitely get him something to express your gratitude.

I agree that giving him money could be awkward, but I think something practical would be good - as said above, a giftcard to a restaurant he likes would be great

I actually had the same question! he is a friend of mine and already said he won't take money. I was thinking a bottle of his favorite vodka with gift card or maybe (he is a musician) a nicer gift that is music related.

I agree with the others that a gift would be best to show your gratitude! We treated our officiant - my boss - to dinner and gave him a nice gift as well.

Our friend became ordained just to marry us, hubby gave him a bottle of brandy, lol.

Thanks for all the advice guys! A gift it is! I can’t believe I didn’t think of that 🤦🏽‍♀️ He is already ordained for another friend he did it for.

View Quoted Comment Seems like a gift is the best idea!

I wouldn't necessarily "pay" him but you should give your officiant a Thank You card with gift cards, movie tickets or whatever they would like/use.

Money may be a little awkward.

We are having my uncle marry us and he will be paying for him self to get ordained and we will be getting him a gift and since our wedding is themed will be buying the shirt we would like him to wear along with his favorite hockey teams jersey

Our friend does this as one of his many jobs, so we will be paying him. He is offering us his "friend discount", though.

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I'm sure he will appreciate whichever! Best of luck and lots of love on your big day!