Paying for guests hotel rooms, not sure how to phrase it

3 years is wayyy to early! I would say 6 months or so.

Three years is WAY too early. Think about your life three years ago... You probably could not have seen a lot of what is happening now and it won't help people to do this. If you are paying I am assuming these are people that are very close to you so you could start casually talking about how this is your idea and you would plan to pay for rooms for those who came, but I wouldn't do anything formal until even a few months out. People can plan around that a few months in advance. And then you aren't roped into anything that maybe won't be a good idea for you in a few years.

I would start kicking this into gear around 8-12 months in advance. I wouldn't wait a few months because summer time people book their vacations way ahead of time. I would let them know maybe by word of mouth that there are complimentary rooms available for all guests in attendance, to have your room reserved please RSVP by xx date.

Everyone is either immediate family or our best friends. They normally start planning vacations 12-18 months in advance which is why I told him maybe we should do 24 months (2 years) beforehand. Unless there was job loss or a death, our group is pretty solid in vacations and such things.

We've only mentioned it to my siblings and a couple friends so far and have gotten extremely positive responses.

Realistically you can't even really buy plane tickets more than a year in advance. I think you should wait until at the most the 18 month mark. But the problem with bringing it up so far in advance is that people's plans might change. Luckily with hotels you can usually cancel pretty close to the date. I would try to hold out on paying for the activity as long as possible though.

You can talk about your intent in general terms with your family and best friends so they know what you are planning, but STD's 2-3 years in advance is just over the top.

I agree with waiting until 6-8 months out.

I had say a year out tops for planning. 3 and even 2 years is way too early

My sister and her husband have been wanting to have a ten year anniversary party. They knew this a long time ago. The time has finally come (in October) for their ten year anniversary. Even knowing they were going to host something, they didn't send anything way in advance. Many people have moved for various reasons and lives change.

Word of mouth is best this far out.

They just sent out invitations (4 minutes the ahead) and 50 guests have already said yes. I'm sure within a year, people could save up and make plans to be at your renewal.

At most, I wouldn't do any formal notification until a year out. It's plenty of notice. STDs for domestic travel weddings typically go out 6-8 months in advance and destination weddings where there is international travel involved would possibly involve STDs going out slightly earlier than that, but no more than a year in advance.

3 years is way too early. Too many things can happen.

It is not a destination wedding, it is a vow renewal. Big difference. Three years out is WAY too early. STD's should go out a year in advance. You might want to verbally start chatting about it to invitees a few months before that, as some plan vacations, etc. a year out.

You can talk about it but I think a 1 year out to send a STD - you only paying for hotel stay and not airfare correct? give folks time to save for airfare (i don't know what is in other peoples bank accounts - i would never assume someone can drop what they are doing and hop a plane anywhere)

This is very generous of you and your husband!

Because you know your crowd, sending an STD 10 months out is best IMO. With regards to letting tgem know you and your husband will be paying for their accomodations, I would include that in the invitation. I would also put a "disclaimer" on that generous gift. " Pkease RSVP by x date. In doing so, your hotel room and x activity will be complimentary. Rsvp's after x date cannot be accomodated."

You are being extremely generous and that should be respected. A timeline/cut off will help.

Don't do it. You're either going to change your mind, finances will change, relationships can change. A year in advance like PPs have said.

I would say a year to 8 mos in advance. Usually 6-8 mos is when you send save the dates. But I'd definitely express your intent to those who ask.

Thanks everyone! I think we're going to do something formal 12 months out and just start spreading things word of mouth for right now. We just didn't want to spring anything on our family. We're doing 7 years instead of 10 because that is just a very lucky number for us lol we have a lot of "sevens" in our lives and just felt that it would be a fun and memorable to celebrate 7 years married in Vegas.