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Paying for Guest Travel?

Kassidy, on October 10, 2019 at 10:55 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 9

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My family and FH’s family do not live near one another, we will be getting married soon after our graduation from college and also be in the process of finding a home for ourselves that will not be near either of our families, so any location we pick will require travel for the majority of our guests. I know nowadays many couples pay for accommodations for traveling guests. Is it rude to invite guests and not pay for their staying arrangements? Should we only invite immediate family? We both have big families that are close to us. We are already on a tight budget and will not be able to afford to reserve hotel rooms for guests or pay for transportation. Thank you!

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Latest activity by Allyson, on October 12, 2019 at 9:07 PM

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Hannah · on October 10, 2019 at 11:06 PM
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I've never heard of couples paying for guests' accommodations (except for very wealthy people or if you rent a large AirBnB or something) . Often, couples will block out hotel rooms (usually at no cost to the couple) at nearby hotels, but paying for travel and lodging is usually the responsibility of the guest.
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Erin · on October 11, 2019 at 1:14 AM
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I wouldn't pay for guests accommodations. I went to a wedding last month where the bride and groom lived in one state and their whole families lived in two completely other states and we paid for our own lodging and airfare to get there.
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Sarah · on October 11, 2019 at 7:50 AM
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I would not. I’ve been a bridesmaid where I had to pay for my own accommodations. I wasn’t upset about it. However, it was nice when I was in a wedding and the bride and groom did provide lodging for the bridal party. We have offered our out of town bridal party our house to stay in. Most have turned us down. I think that is a nice gesture but not required. We blocked rooms for our out of town guests
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Anna · on October 11, 2019 at 9:56 AM
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I've never heard of paying for anyone's accommodations. You don't need to do that.
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MrsD · on October 11, 2019 at 11:12 AM
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Basically every wedding we've been to, we've had to stay in a hotel. Not once has the bride or groom offered to pay for our lodging (I'd say we've been to 12 weddings over 3 years). So I don't think that's very typical. We didn't pay for any guest lodging.
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Jennifer · on October 11, 2019 at 11:38 AM
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I have never heard of paying for guest accommodations for a wedding. I've always paid for myself and been fine with it! You are not on the hook for that and the guests should pay for themselves!
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Alyssa · on October 11, 2019 at 12:33 PM
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It is absolutely not your responsibility to pay for people to travel to your wedding. It is unrealistic to assume that EVERY GUEST you want to invite lives within driving distance of your wedding venue and will not need a hotel room. Some or all guests will need to make arrangements, and unless the couple or family is very wealthy, this expense falls on the guests. If they can't afford to come, they can politely decline the invitation.
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Lady · on October 11, 2019 at 1:43 PM
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No it is not rude to invite people but not pay for accommodation. As long as you host well (enough food, appropriate food for time of event, no cash bar, etc) you are totally fine.
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Allyson · on October 12, 2019 at 9:07 PM
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The majority of our guests are coming from out of town (we live in Florida right now, but I'm from Michigan and FH is from Texas) so there is no way that we could afford to pay for 80 people's accommodations! I wouldn't put pressure on yourself about this.
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