Pay or not to pay?

View Quoted Comment You don’t have to have beer to go the the wedding. You can drink water or other drinks.

View Quoted Comment Right. Definitely not the same concept and not what this discussion is about.

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Getting married is a right, throwing a party to celebrate is a privilege. There's absolutely nothing wrong with a courthouse wedding. If you feel like you need to set up a GoFundMe (which is for charitable causes, not parties) because a simple civil ceremony isn't good enough for you, then you're getting married for all the wrong reasons.

View Quoted Comment Totally agree. Again I seen this on tv and wanted to know the thoughts of the community. Once again there are people out there that are less fortunate.

View Quoted Comment There are nationalities or cultural beliefs where it is not a right or for those who are less fortunate. Of course we have the blessing to choose who we want to marry and how we want our day to go. Thanks for your feedback.

View Quoted Comment Absolutely

View Quoted Comment We’re not talking about those cultures in this post though. Of course we’re lucky we get to choose who we want to marry but that isn’t relevant to the topic at all. Caytlyn’s point is that getting married is a right but no one needs to throw a big wedding/reception. If you need your guests to fund the party you’re hosting, you’re doing it wrong.

View Quoted Comment Thanks for your feedback and I too had others to request in bring something or BYO to house warming, a family gathering, etc. Overall those who we love dearly will be a support system no matter the obstacles. Bless others and get blessings in return.

View Quoted Comment She pointed out it’s a right and I commented. The post was a general question due to a network show I recently watched or encountered. I will not do that to my personal guests but some will. So I’m not doing anything wrong and everyone is entitled to their opinion.

Oh good lord, no. No no no no no. No.

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That's also inappropriate for a hosted event like a wedding.

No, no and no. Create a wedding within your budget. Guests already often travel, sometimes take days off work, give wedding gifts, get a nice outfit, etc. I would find it so cheap and tacky if someone put that in their invite.

Absolutely not. If you can't afford the wedding, you just elope by yourselves. Your guests should not contribute towards your party.

There are a lot of things on these boards that people get blasted for that I don't agree with the negativity surrounding them.

Cash Bars? In my area and social circle they are the norm. No problem with them.

Backyard Weddings? Love them.

Dry Weddings? Not my preference, but I don't see the issue with them.

Having people stand for a short ceremony? No problem.

However, asking people to pay to attend your wedding sits wrong with me. I, as an invited guest, would toss your invite and not attend.