Passed On But Still In You Hearts

We have quite a few relatives that are near and dear to us and we’ll represent them at a table with their framed pictures and a burning candle! My mom passed a decade ago so for her especially my grandparents will walk down the aisle holding a framed picture of her and place it on a reserved seat in the front row💕

A friend of mine made my bouquet, and she put a little charm on it as a surprise for me. It commemorated all our loved ones who were unable to be there. She also included a charm with an "M" to commemorate my step-niece who passed away tragically a month before. I didn't want a table or anything because I felt like it would be too much given the number of relatives we would need to have pictures of. This way, I carried those people up the aisle with me.

We did a few things:
1) I had a bouquet charm and he had a lapel pin
2) we left empty chairs in the front row and had a place in our ceremony where we acknowledged this people and then we went and put flowers on the chairs
3) we had pictures on a memory tabke

it was really important for us; especially my husband because both of his parents and his brother are deceased

Daughter also wanted more subtle remembrances. Both sets of her grandparents were married in the same year; three of them have passed on and the fourth was too frail to travel for the wedding. She found a penny from the year they were married. FOB drilled a small hole in it, and we attached it with a gold cord to her bouquet. We also wrapped the stems of her bouquet with fabric from my mother's wedding gown. My sister and I wore our mom's gown, but it was too fragile to be an option for daughter. With the fabric and the penny, she felt like she "carried her beloved grandparents with her" throughout the day. I also had some of my dad's old white cotton handkerchiefs (something he carried with him every day of his adult life). I washed and starched the two best ones and gave SIL and FOB each one the morning of the wedding. When daughter cried, as we fully expected her to, during her first looks with each of them, they whipped out her papa's handkerchief to dry her eyes with. We had lots of subtle things like those that we all knew about, but they didn't call other peoples' attention to those who we were missing. Good luck to you!

I’ll have a little note with a gold candle and their pictures on the fireplace mantle

I am planning on buying a small bouquet of white lilies and setting them on the ceremony chair with their photo. I probably won't have anything for the reception, just don't want people feeling upset/sad.

I've lost several loved ones that I'm honoring at our wedding. I'm making a memory frame. I bought a window from my local reuse building supplies store. The frame will say "Until we meet again... ♡" and each photo will be on the pane with their names underneath.

We've both lost our parents. He's lost two older brothers and an older sister. I've also lost my cousin/best friend and my grandma who helped raised me after my parents died. We hare having a memorial prayer during the service, we're having a memorial table with a collage frame with their pictures, and a memorial dance during the reception. I know that sounds like a lot, but they were significant to us

We are reserving seats at the front with a picture of them, which will be displayed on a separate table afterwards. My sister in law had a photo of each of them made into charms that were on her bouquet.

That's such a sweet way to include your mom. I'm sorry she won't be there in person but I'm sure she'll be there in spirit.

That's such a nice way to include the dearly departed without having a bunch of empty chairs. Sometimes it's the smaller things that have a more lasting purpose. Did you do anything with the charms in your bouquet after the wedding?

I like how you did more than 1 thing to keep them in mind. For your husband, having lost so many close family members, I'm sure it meant a lot!

That's almost magical how you incorporated so many aspects of your departed family! I only have a couple of people I want to do something like that for. I may end up using 1 or 2 of your sugestions. Thanks so much!

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That sounds beautiful. Their presence in your heart burns on in that special day!

It's good of you to be worried about other people's feelings on your big day. So often, Brides are unaware of how their decisions impact others at their wedding. Good for you!

I love the window frame idea! That way you can make each picture capture their personality.

On the back of our program before the thank you for coming section. We have a designated section for those have passed. It's our "In Memoriam" section, we listed the names on there and the relation to the bride or groom.

I think that's a lovely idea! I'm sorry both of you have lost so many important people but know, in your heart, that they are there with you on the most important day of your life.

That's so sweet Happilee! I hope you can feel their love on your special day.

What a great way to incorporate them!