Party bus etiquette

We are also renting transportation to the after party. I would not ask for contribution to the bus, but instead get a more affordable option, such as a school bus or a trolley.

I wouldn't ask for it either.

No. People usually have their own transportation to weddings. Sometimes hotels add complimentary, round trip transportation to wedding venues as part of their wedding block packages. You may want to check with your hotel to see what's available. If the afterparty is at a separate location other than the venue or the hotel, you can ask if the hotel's shuttle can add it as a stop on the way to the hotel with the return trips included.

There is no transportation, no shuttle, no trolley, nothing supplied by the hotel. And the venue also has a strict no after party on property rule. The party bus is the only vehicle large enough in the area to accommodate everyone (up in the mountains in CO). Most are staying between the venue and the main area of town so the bus could drop them off after the after party too, no drinking and driving. I was just thinking that $5 each is cheaper than a DUI or ubber even

View Quoted Comment There are no other options because of the time of year and location. Small mountain town in northern Colorado.

I guess if it's optional you could let guests know in advance the bus is $5 if they want to take it? I'd be caught off guard if someone told me that on an invite though. Collecting the $5 from everyone seems like a pain too.

I wouldn’t. You’re paying for everything in the wedding, this one last expense isn’t going to make or break you. It will however make for an awkward conversation or people opting out because they don’t have cash when they really shouldn’t be driving. Not worth it, just for $5

I would go for a cheaper transportation option, Uber credit, or nothing before I asked for money from my guests, especially close friends and family.

I get what you're saying about it being the after party and not the wedding, but I still wouldn't ask guests to pay, especially if those guests have traveled to be there for you. It just seems like poor etiquette coming from either you or your future spouse.

If you cannot afford the bus, then end with the reception, no after party, before asking guests to chip in. They are guests, not a funding source. Do what you can afford . Then stop.

I wouldn't ask for contribution. Unless you send everyone a message like "hey we're considering getting shared transportation for the after party? Would you guys want to do that or all drive separate? If you want to go together we'd like to split costs?"

Do not ask them to pay. It is still considered a part of the wedding so you host it.